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Dang -- It's Valentine's Day Again -- 2 Tips for the Single and Not-So-Single
by Dr. Alex Benzer
of Tao of Dating
April 14th, 2008
Ah yes. February 14 has rolled around, catching most of us flat-footed. It just kinda creeps up on ya, doesn't it?
Being a dating dude and all, it behooves me to chime in on this day of manufactured distress for single men and women of the Western world.
But rejoice! This ain't half as bad as you think. Here are some guidelines for getting the most out of your Valentine's Day:
1) If you are single, GET OUT!
This one of two days in the year (New Year's Eve being the other) when you can approach any woman who doesn't have some large primate in tow, knowing for a fact that she's single. And if she's not single but the dude in question is not by her side, she's probably fuming about that and wishes she *were* single.
Translation: opportunities galore for you, my friend! And remember this: guys don't mind being single or getting turned down so much. It's normal. But a beautiful woman hates, despises, absolutely abhors the idea that it's Valentine's Day, and she has no options for candlelit dinners, romantic outing and snuggling in bed.
Be that option, my friend! Pour on the romance, lavish her with attention, and make her the center of your universe when you're with her. Focused attention is one of the big attraction techniques in The Tao of Dating, and it's particularly effective today.
And what a great story it would make if you *were* to connect tonight -- she'd always be able to tell the story with a dreamy look in her eye: "I'll never forget -- we met on Valentine's Day..." So use that story NOW with the time-distortion technique! It'll go something like this:
"Y'know, Object of My Current Desire, just imagine -- if we were to connect tonight and have a wonderful time together, six months down the road, we'd be sitting at dinner with some friends, holding hands (grab her hand already, dude), and they'd ask, 'How did you two meet?', and we'd give each other a meaningful look, just like we are right now, and say, 'We met on Valentine's Day', and look back on this moment, knowing that's when it all started". And then you give her a masterly smooch.
Dastardly. Run with it, brother.
2) If you are dating more than one woman, get out of town!
Valentine's Day, like New Year's Eve, is one of those 'special' nights when you simply won't be able to get away with not being with her.
Seeing as how there's only one copy of you and multiple copies of your beloveds, there's only one way to get out of this dilemma (or trilemma, depending on how enterprising you've been in your dating), which is to Get Outta Dodge.
It's important to set this up well in advance, so they know the shock is coming. You also soften the blow with romantic dinners before the day, flowers (which will cost you a third as much, since you're not buying it on Feb 14, aka National Florist's Price-Gouging Day), and other frou-frou accoutrements like chocolate and whatnot.
Of course, if you're getting this article today, that doesn't really help you much, so your only recourse may be a work or family emergency of real or imagined nature. Am I saying you should make stuff up outright here? Of course not. That would be devious and wrong. Just don't tell me about it.
3) If you have a significant other, go completely overboard.
All relationships are temporary. Even the best ones end in death or divorce. So make the most of what you have now, 'cause now is all you've got! You should always be treating her like the Supreme Goddess of the Universe, so do even more of it now.
Take her to dinner, or even better, cook her one and wait on her hand and foot. Arrange the bedroom with flowers, incense, soft music, candles -- whatever creates the right mood for celebrating one another. Do a tantric puja if you're into that. Give her a full body massage with scented oil for at least an hour, completely giving your attention to her pleasure. Go to eHow.com and figure out how to give her a facial; get the ingredients from The Body Shop and give her the best damn facial she's ever gotten.
The point is this: here is your chance to celebrate her and express how much you appreciate having her in your life. Personally, I think we should do that every day and always keep in mind that every woman is a manifestation of the goddess -- especially the woman you're dating. In the meantime, making your honey feel like she really is one on this fine day is a good start.
Now go have some fun with it.
The power is within you,
Dr Alex
PS: Can you think of two friends who would also find this article useful? Then feel free to do them a favor and forward the article to them.
PPS: I'm interested in your questions and comments regarding dating, persuasion and
networking, so please do send them to me. I can be reached at dra***x@th***.com[ ? ]
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