Doesn’t matter whether she is interested in you, you’ll make her interested eventually
anyway:) But look for these signs to show you whether you’re already making progress:)
It’s also fun to look for these signs as a by-stander, either in everyday situations or
for example in a bar – when the guy earnestly believes he is being sooo smooth but the
woman he is talking to isn’t displaying any of the signs presented below, you can’t help
but have a chuckle about it:)
Her lips: - Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.
- Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front
teeth.
- She wets her lips, some women use only a single-lip lick, wetting the upper or lower
lip, while others run the tongue around the entire lip area.
- She puts her fingernail between her teeth.
- She protrudes her lips and thrust her breasts forward.
Her eyes: - She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.
- She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, this is often combined
with a smile and some eye contact.
- She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.
- While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.
- Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile indicates interest in you.
Her hair: - She pushes her fingers through her hair. This can be one hand movement or more of a
stroking motion.
- She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.
- She is throwing her hair back off her shoulders.
Her clothing: - If she is wearing clothes that show her nipples underneath and you notice they are
getting perky and erect.
- The hem goes up to expose a little more leg.
- She is fixing, patting or smoothing her outfit to make herself look better.
While she is seated: - She moves in time to the music, with her eyes on you.
- She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
- She is sitting with her legs open.
- She sits with her legs crossed in a manner to reveal her thigh.
- Her legs are rubbing against each other.
- Her legs are rubbing against the leg of the table.
- Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth
towards you.
Her hands: - She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.
- While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her
other hand, palm up.
- She rubs her wrists up and down.
- She sits with one hand touching one of her breasts.
- She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she’s thinking about you and
her relating in some way:)
- She is fondling keys, sliding hands up and down a glass, playing with toys or other
things on the table.
- She plays with her jewellery, especially with stroking and pulling motions.
- She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you (in case you already
haven’t started kino yourself, dumbass:).
- She is pretending to look at her watch as you pass her.
Her voice - She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.
- She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.
- She laughs in unison with you.
- In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.
Micellaneous: - She mirrors your body language» and body positions.
- Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.
- She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you.
- She leans over and speaks into her friend’s ear, just like in junior high school.
- She is standing with her head cocked slightly at an angle, one foot behind the other,
hips slightly thrust forward.
- At a party – every once in a while she seems to appear out of nowhere in your vicinity
and if you move to another spot, soon she appears out of nowhere again, you catch her
glancing in your general direction (actually, glancing at YOU dummy!:), she bumps into
you… accidentally, touches you… accidentally etc:)
When talking to a girl, these are some of the more important signs to watch for: - Can you keep conversation going with her?
- Does she react well to kino?
- Does she touch you?
- Does she laugh?
Now I don’t have to explain what the answer “yes” to these questions means,
do I:) From “Sweep women off their feet…”: “All these signs usually tell you
that the girl is captivated by your charms. But before you get there, chances are that her
body language» changes as the discussion progresses. Make sure that you watch her closely
and as soon as you get a sign that should be an indication that you are on the right
track, keep going in that direction. If the opposite happens, just change the subject and
see what happens.” The really gorgeous and beautiful girls however very seldom get around to displaying
the signs of interest described above. They simply don’t have to, as they are used to
getting some attention already long before that. With such girls you have to be on a
lookout for the initial and thus much more subtle signs of interest. One example of this
would be a gorgeous girl simply looking at your face. Obviously people tend to look at
what or whom they like to look at. But whereas an average girl first just looks at your
face and then progresses into the more overt signs of interest described above, looking at
your face from time to time might be the only sign of interest you’ll ever get from the
most beautiful of girls. So if you think you’re not getting any signs of interest from beautiful girls – you
are, but you just can’t see them well enough yet. Don Steele: “Here are signs of interest sent from across the room. Most are
applicable to both sexes. The sequence of the list approximates the courtship sequence.
I’M INTERESTED Sidelong glance(s) Looks at you a few times Holds your gaze briefly Downcast eyes, then away Posture changes to alert Preens, adjusts hair, attire Turns body toward you Tilts head Narrows eyes slightly Smiles Matches your posture Eyes sparkle Licks her lips Thrusts breasts | DON’T BOTHER ME Never sneaks a peek Fleeting eye contact Looks away quickly Looks away, eyes level Posture unchanged Does no preening Turns body away Head remains vertical Eyes remain normal Neutral, polite face Posture unchanged Normal or dull eyes Keeps mouth closed Sags to de-emphasize breasts |
In Summary. Frequency of eye contact, the more the better. Amount of time she, or he,
holds your gaze, the longer the better. How she breaks off eye contact, down before away
is great! Shine of the eyes, the brighter the better. Direction of body, toward you, good,
away, bad. Overall posture, erect and alert are good. Tilt of head, vertical is bad,
increased tilt is great. Where the drink is held, high in front as a barrier, that’s bad.
Hand activity, clenched, squeezing or pinching is bad, open, caressing or stroking is
great. Most of us are slightly afraid as well as somewhat excited in settings where social
interaction is expected and required. So, most people do not sit or stand in an open
posture. But, during courtship, the more open the other person’s posture is, the more open
that person is to you and your advances. And, the more open you are, the more likely the
other person is to open up to you. First Conversation Signals. Men, pay attention to all
the ways she communicates during the first few minutes as you talk with her. KEEP TALKING Alert, energetic Pupils dilated Gradually opens posture Lowers drink Touches self gently Caresses objects Crosses and uncrosses legs Flashes of palm Crossed legs steady Dangles shoe on toe Hands never touch face Touches you any reason Feet firmly on floor Loosens anything Leans forward Steady hands, feet | MOVE ON Tense, restless Normal or small pupils Posture remains closed Keeps drink high Grips or pinches self Squeezes, taps objects Legs remain crossed Back of hand gestures Swings crossed legs Keeps shoe on Touches face Never touches you Feet on edges or toes Tightens anything Leans away Tapping, drumming |
In social settings, most of us start out in a closed, defensive posture because we’re a
bit apprehensive. A closed posture feels safe. When the person you are talking with shifts
to a more open posture, it signifies trust and comfort. That person is, literally, opening
up to you and what you have to offer. It takes courage to open up to the other person. If you go first, she, or he, will
usually follow your move from closed to slightly more open. Open up in, slow, gradual
shifts of posture. | |