You have nothing, absolutely nothing to expect from a girl to whom you do not
demonstrate value and personality. Be it being Mr Smooth or making her horny with GM or
leading her imagination with patterning or simply being you in a great mood, confident and
witty which she finds attractive - you have to demonstrate her something about you that
she discovers to be of value for her. And she will discover it being of value for her for
the simple reason of liking the way that value makes her feel. So many guys think, that their mere presence and company is of some specific value to
the girl - well it is not. If you sport a great face and/or big muscles, then your
presence can sometimes be a turn-on for a girl - she likes the way the proximity of your
face and muscles make her feel and thus your presence can be of separate value for her.
But even the few times that happens, it will wear off fast if it turns out that that is
all you have to offer. Any time the girl is bored, disinterested, turns you down, walks away, rejects you or
ignores you - you have simply not demonstrated enough value to her. Demonstrating the
right kind of value and personality, the kind that she is especially looking for in a
partner is not an issue at this point, you'll get to that when Eliciting values. Right now you simply
need to get her attention by taking an educated guess at what she might be interested in -
see Good traits to have and develop.
Demonstrating any kind of value and personality from that list of traits will do perfectly
fine for starters, and is infinitely better than the "Here I am, this is the way I
look (and I'm sorry I'm not better-looking), now please like me" attitude used by
most guys (who are also "trying" to be funny and confident etc, but eventually
their AFC'ness will inevitably shine through:). Which will leave them scratching their
heads while the girl walks away and thinking "oh, better luck next time, I'm sure
someone somewhere will like me... I hope". In fact, you are like a travelling salesman, giving girls only a foretaste of the goods
and offering them an opportunity to get the real stuff... "if they behave well
enough":) See the difference with AFC thinking? Which seems to consider that the
girls are the "goods" which you might eventually get if you date, pay for
dinners/movies and take their disrespect long enough? No, YOU are the goods, but you're
not selling to everyone - you offer only to a select group of potential customers. But you
don't need to push it, the stuff is for real and you know it, and if one customer doesn't
want it, its her loss, another one will grab you gladly:) Just don't forget - nobody will want your goods if they don't even know anything about
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Demonstrate value and personality
