mASF post by "esk6969"
posted on: mASF forum: General Discussion newsgroup, July 7, 2005Hmmmm.... based on the fact that you're asking questions like this, and the
fact that your profile says you've logged in 618 times over the past three
years, yet only made a total of 26 posts, it sounds like you need to....
Get in the game.
WTF are you doing man, sitting around by the phone, waiting for a WOMAN to
call? I don't mean this as a flame but, ARE you a chick, posing to see what
we'd say? Seriously, this isn't even an AFC/PUA thing, this is just a *gender*
thing. Guys don't sit around waiting by the phone for women to call them.
WOMEN do that with MEN. AFC's, just go watch sports or jerk off or whatever.
PUA's go fuck ten other women. But I've never known any guy to sit around and
go "why didn't she call"? At least, not to his guy friends, because he knows
he's be the subject of ridicule.
On 7/16/05 10:45:00 PM, AleHydro wrote:
>If you treat it as no big
>deal, then she will get the
>idea that she can walk all
>over you and you will tolerate
>her bullshit.
You know, the older I get, I realize the truth in the saying "when you're
young, you care what everyone thinks about you. When you are middle-aged, you
don't care what they think about you. And when you are old, you realize they
weren't thinking of you at all."
I'm like the old guy in that sentence, even though I'm only 34. At this point
in my life, I have enough actual accomplishment and experience to allow my ego
deflate to the proportion of my achievement, rather than what I *wish* it was,
without endangering my self-esteem. Most guys who are young, dumb, and full of
cum will have no idea what this means, and go find the latest "hip hop star" to
emulate.
However, an interesting by product of this process has been that, I've truly
become able to become completely unconcerned with what other people think of
me, because... most of them don't. Most people don't give a fuck about anyone
but themselves... and that includes you, and me. That means that for you,
also, it is true that most people don't give a fuck about you... including this
chick who didn't call. She doesn't give a fuck about me either.
And that's ok! Reading back the above, it comes across negative, but I don't
mean it that way at all. It is neither good nor bad, it just simply... is. It
is the way of things. And, even if it sounds cold, or harsh, really, it can be
used to your advantage.
If a chick says she'll call, and doesn't, she's not sitting around thinking
"should I call? should I call? should I call? should I call? should I call?
should I call? should I call?" She's off busy, and doing other things.
If you call her, and if she remembers you, one of two things will happen: She
will be happy to hear from you; or she will view you as a nuisance. You'll
know in about 4.5 seconds. She'll LET you know, in no uncertain terms.
>Option 2, you tell her that
>when she says shes gonna call
>that she better call.
No, not an option. For one, you shouldn't even be THINKING about this. If you
wanna call her... FUCKING CALL HER. If you don't - don't. It really is just
that simple. She didn't call - so, you call her! Wow!
>Here you show her that you won't
>tolerate her bullshit
No, here you show her that you are an insecure jackass, who is totally wrapped
up in himself, and probably acts the same way in bed, and so, just ruined what
little chance he had. What if she got in an accident? What if a family member
died? What if SHE died, or is in the hospital? "Mom, can you check my
messages?" "Sure, honey." "Hey, this hydro, why didn't you call me at the
appointed time? I have no tolerance for your bullshit. Call me back (click)."
NICE.
>So tell me how you guys
>usually deal with this
>situation.
By having more than ONE prospect, who isn't even thinking about you, because
you haven't given her any reason to do so, (generate attraction?), by getting
your validation from your life, not your women, so that you have better things
to do than sit around and wait for the phone to ring, and by calling people,
when you feel like calling them, and not when you don't.
"Get your validation from your life, not your women." - L&C
"Girls network" is like the Mafia with the difference that they use the tongue
instead of Beretta. - Franco
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