mASF post by "Jargon"
posted on: USENet: alt.seduction.fast newsgroup, January 1, 2000Everyone has something wrong with them. In some it's easier to see. In others it's
harder.
Look at Roger Rabbit. He's a rabbit. He has a wife. She loves him. He makes her
laugh. No, I am not kidding in this example. I have heard women say this about
their men. If you make her feel good, then she will want you around more. The
lesson is simple.
Don't look on "taking interest" as an aggressive thing. All you have is curiosity.
That's it. You might not like her once you talk to her. There is nothing wrong with
indulging your curiosity. Do you think that she is going to get hurt by talking
about the weather for two minutes? My favorite line, especially at parties, is "Hi,
I haven't met you before. I'm so-and-so. Who do you know? I know this other guy.
Where'd you meet your friend at?" And so on.
Practice your chitchat. Practice on everyone. That's the only way to get better at
it.
Matthew Hill wrote:
> Firstly, thanks for all of the replies.
>
> To give some sort of indication as to my situation, I have been actively
> concerned as to my plight since March/April '99, and have been reading all the
> online forums I can possibly find, and employing the techiques described as and
> where I can.
>
> My situation sounds increadibley simillar to that of the person under question
> in the "AFC O'Rama". No, I do not use his "technique", although I might as
> well as it brings the same result - nout.
>
> I am activeely trying to approch new women at the moment, although the only
> problem is that I often stall for a topic of conversation (and therefore say
> nothing to them).
>
> What would really help my posistion is if women were to be approching me, for a
> start I wouldn't be worried about "invading thier space" so much and second, it
> should ease some of the pressure in the situation, as they would be taking the
> interest in me, not the other way round.
>
> I've said it before, and I feel it would be apt to point this out again: I
> feel as though I am continually fighting a one-sided battle. Women just
> don't want to know me.
>
> Which leads me to question the significance of looks. I am not what you could
> describe as looking like Leo Di Caprico (or whoever), I'm just plain old
> average. If first impressions count, then obviously this must be a turn-off to
> them.
>
> "He's not so good looking - I don't think I'll bother with him. Next!"
>
> If looks aren't important, then why do (younger) women insist on putting up
> posters of the latest good-looking male on their bedroom wall (in the same way
> that a (younger) man would put one up of Brittany Spears)?
>
> Consider a recent "success" story:
>
> I managed to get chatting to a friend of a (male) friend of mine. We spoke for
> quite a while (anything up to about two hours). I used humour, SS techniques
> anything that I could think of as being appropriate. I felt as though a was
> pretty successful in my new-found attempts. "When you feel as though you've
> done something right - there's nothing that can beat the feeling".
>
> It would seem that I had not suceeded.
>
> A few days later, I saw her again said "Hi". No response. She just gave me
> the strangest look ever. Time to give up on yet another failiure.
>
> This pattern is common to all my approches, but the above example exemplifies
> the situation perfectly.
>
> Don't get me wrong here, on a daily basis I'll see at least one person that
> could well be worth a second look. It's just that I think to myself "what do I
> say, what do I say". If only....
>
> Incidentally, I'm an Electronic Engineering graduate - although lack of "women
> skills" seems to be a genral trait common to all Elec. Eng. Students.
>
> Sorry for the long rant, but I really, really want to overcome this annoying
> hurdle.
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