mASF post by "thx"
posted on: USENet: alt.seduction.fast newsgroup, January 1, 2000>I am activeely trying to approch new women at the moment, although the only
>problem is that I often stall for a topic of conversation (and therefore
>say nothing to them).
so, you don't even stall, you don't approach at all? look up some openers in
the archives. also, try to approach them in everyday situations as opposed
to bar / club pickups. you can join a class somewhere or go to an art
gallery (excellent place for weird sounding shit like SS). of course, an
approach in itself will get you nothing. you've got to HOLD a conversation
(and be interesting and have a plan while you're at it).
>What would really help my posistion is if women were to be approching me,
>for a start I wouldn't be worried about "invading thier space" so much and
>second, it should ease some of the pressure in the situation, as they would
>be taking the interest in me, not the other way round.
what, you need a visa to get close to them?
and why would they take an interest in you? do you look great or have money?
no? then why should THEY approach YOU? what VALUE do you have that is
apparent to chicks, so that THEY want to approach YOU?
>Which leads me to question the significance of looks. I am not what you
>could describe as looking like Leo Di Caprico (or whoever), I'm just plain
>old average. If first impressions count, then obviously this must be a
>turn-off to them.
>
> "He's not so good looking - I don't think I'll bother with him. Next!"
yeah, if they judge you by your looks you're pretty much screwed. try to
offer them something else besides looks and see if they "next" you.
when I ask chicks (17-21) what kind of guys they're into, most of them just
say he needs to be "cute". then I ask
"Really? How does being cute matter to you?"
"I dunno, blah...blah."
"Wouldn't you rather like a guy who can make you feel good, ... , like in
bed, under the table, on the washing machine, ... , make you experience all
those wonderful feelings of <insert elicited feelings or educated guesses
here>?"
"Well, yeah."
"And in what way is a cute guy automatically qualified to make you feel the
way you want to feel?"
"Umm, well, errrm ..."
it never failed. of course, I don't say shit like "wonderful feelings" but
you should. chicks dig that.
>If looks aren't important, then why do (younger) women insist on putting up
>posters of the latest good-looking male on their bedroom wall (in the same
>way that a (younger) man would put one up of Brittany Spears)?
these "younger women" wouldn't be fourteen, now would they?
and looks ARE important, just not all-important or most important.
>A few days later, I saw her again said "Hi". No response. She just gave
>me the strangest look ever. Time to give up on yet another failiure.
1. is she shy?
2. was she delirious/stoned/drunk/unconscious during your first convo?
3. did you say "Hi" in a timid, inaudible grunt-like voice?
4. did you maintain eye contact just the first 10 nanoseconds?
5. was her Bluto boyfriend around?
6. was she testing you for being a pussy?
7. were you wearing a ski mask?
8. did you grab her T&A in the last convo?
the best thing to do when you see her next time (next time after she failed
to respond to your "Hi") is stop her and ask why she's being rude. be
dominant and overbearing and make her explain herself and apologize. you
don't have to talk to her ever again, but this way you will have a better
chance of knowing why she acted that way.
>Incidentally, I'm an Electronic Engineering graduate - although lack of
>"women skills" seems to be a genral trait common to all Elec. Eng.
>Students.
try not to LOOK like a tech geek. I'm a C system programmer and part time
server admin and web designer and you could never tell by the way I look.
looking great (body & clothes) will increase your confidence and standing
out from the crowd will offer you a greater chance of being approached by
chicks.
rgds.
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