mASF post by "finalD"
posted on: mASF forum: Playettes Discussion, December 12, 2004kooper wrote at Wed, 29 Dec 2004 19:23:00 GMT in
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> same as if a pivot of mine would slip it into the convo
> with the target that i have a big dick.
>
> (do you notice even talking that remote about me having a
> big dick makes it sound like bragging?)
>
> but you absolutely can´t bring that stuff up yourself.
>
> that is pure bragging and is totally seethrough,
I think that the difficulty of bragging, or other forms of
arrogance, is simply one of calibration. It's a very subtle act,
talking about yourself JUUUUST enough to get people to want to
fuck you, but not ANY more than that amount because then they
get LESS interested in fucking you. Figuring out the right
amount is all about EACH INDIVIDUAL CIRCUMSTANCE.
Therefore, I disagree with your assessment that one could
"never" speak about ones own big dick. There are chicks who
would simply fall for it -- maybe they're dumb, or maybe they
happened to be drunk when you said it so they didn't process
subtler cues or act as suspicious as they would have when they
were sober, maybe some chicks need a REALLY arrogant self-
congratulatory guy while other chicks get turned off by it.
Really, there are simply no rules about how much bragging is too
much or the right amount or too little, I think. In general, I'd
suggest that most rAFCs learn to brag about themselves MORE
rather than less, especially if the bragging isn't coming from a
position of insecurity. I'd suggest this for several reasons.
One would be, that their old AFC habits are likely to be ones of
reticence rather than excess -- never talk good about yourself,
for example. Another reason would be, that males in general
assess "bragging" in a manner quite differently from females --
guys who turn out to be "full of themselves" to other guys are
often "not at all full of himself" to women. Chicks seem to have
a different "receptor" for bragging, such that there is a right
way to do it that doesn't actually seem like bragging to them.
It isn't JUST subtlety; it's also FLAVOR.
It's kind of like peacocking in your wardrobe. If you come from
the wrong point of view about it, a bright pink shirt can look
totally nerdy, or totally desperately insecure and self-
aggrandizing, or totally sexy. If you do it right, it sends the
message of "I am confident in myself, and I LIKE myself a lot,
and I want to spread that wonderful self around, and there's
nothing wrong with that, and the rest of the world (especially
hot babes) benefits from interacting with me." If you do it
wrong (peacocking or bragging), it sends the message of "I am
insecure about myself" or "I don't understand local customs and
typical social conventions, and therefore don't know that I'm
BREAKING the rules."
Tough acts to perfect, both of them. In general, I'd encourage
an rAFC to do what they say you should do in acting auditions --
start out by doing too much, and only after you get some
feedback, try to cut back to a lesser level. It's usually better
to show a full and extreme range of behaviors rather than to
timidly hide in the middle. Later in their development, rAFCs
might start to recognize some more subtle cues.
(I'd recommend that the "extreme" behavior be indulged in for
about the first six months or even a year, as a rule of thumb.
But I am not too sure about the timeline and wouldn't really
want to insist that everyone develops at the same rate.)
So g'wan! Talk about that twelve inch dick! :)
--
The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in
higher esteem those who think alike than those who think
differently.
Friedrich Nietzsche
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