mASF post by "xfade7"
posted on: mASF forum: General Discussion newsgroup, May 5, 2005

TD may have said that Feel the fear and do it anyway is counter-productive..
but david deangelo recommends it. It doesnt neccesarily let you focus on the
fear, its reminding yourself that whatever happens you can handle it.
<TheGame> wrote in message news:[email protected]...
> Hmm ... to me it seems that thinking about it at all is mental
masturbation
> and only increses the fear. I remember TD saying that books such as "Feel
> The Fear and Do It Anyway" are counter-productive because by focusing on
> FEAR you increase FEAR.
>
> I talk about the same thing in my sales training books and seminars, that
> when re-framing you must avoid the negative trait entirely. So never say
> affirmations like "I never feel fear when approaching" because you're
still
> focusing on fear. Go with something like "I love sarging, it's fun as
hell and
> I
> love every minute of it."
>
> As for me, my game has definitely suffered since being in an LTR, very
similar
> to what TD talked about after getting his girlfriend, but for some reason
> approach anxiety has not returned, it's like it's dead forever. It's once
I'm
> in
> set that my game has weakened, my wit and vocal projection aren't there
like
> when I was out several nights a week sarging.
>