mASF post by "Chaco"
posted on: mASF forum: General Discussion newsgroup, July 7, 2005On 7/20/05 7:11:00 PM, noir wrote:
>I had this fb about a year ago... we met
>online... she lives about 1 hr drive
>away and we met once and fucked for like
>24 hrs straight. she was living w/ her
>bf at the time and I couldnt get her to
>meet up again.
Not surprising, she wanted a guy for one time thing, not a replacement for her
BF.
Then like a month ago she
>emails me out of nowhere and asks why I
>was so mean to her... I responded kind
>of beta giving her straight answer..
It's not beta to give a straight answer. Don't assume something other than C&F
is beta. I wonder what you said?
I
>wanted to see her but she wouldnt come
>bla bla bla.... she doesnt answer so I
>write her and say wtf r u going to
>ignore me now... kinda supplicating I
>guess...
Yes, this was bad. A real man doesn't show emotion too quickly, you need to
play it cool. This will make you seem desperate to see her.
anyway she writes back and says
>dont get the wrong I idea... she just
>wanted to know why I was a jerk. wtf??
>I wasnt a jerk to her just being C&F and
>playing hard to get, not supplicating...
>typical ASF shit.
There is a right time for c&f and a wrong time. Why play hard-to-get after you
fuck her? You should reward good behavior. Who knows, maybe if you had
deepened your connection with her, she would have left her BF for you. No,
don't supplicate, but connect with her.
So I wrote back to
>her saying "wtf you write out of nowhere
>calling me an asshole... if this is how
>u r take ur psycho bullshit elsewhere...
>just cause your chump ass bf bought into
>ur shit doesnt mean I will... if you
>want free shit and to shack up with a
>chump good luck, maybe you will learn to
>respect men some day."
God this is terrible. The only one who looks psycho is you. Why are you
letting her get to you like this?
>
>This is what she wrote back:
>
>see. You dont know how to act like a
>man.
Eaxctly, she is right.
You just get so angry out of
>nowhere rather than listening to
>anything I have to say.
Read her email again, it's as good as any advice you'll get on ASF.
Dont tell me I
>dont know how to respect men because you
>dont know how to respect women. I dont
>think my email is out of nowhere because
>you are on my mind quite frequently.
Man, you HAD her...*sigh*
I
>broke up with my boyfriend in May and Im
>not looking for a fool and I dont need
>free shit. I just want to know why you
>were so mean to me if you wanted me so
>badly because I know how badly I wanted
>you and if you wanted me 1/100 as much
>as I wanted you then I have no idea how
>you could have treated me so terribly.
You obviously totally miscalibrated you c&f and overdid it. It's supped to be
cocky&funny, not cocky&really mean.
I
>dont think I bullshitted you because you
>knew I had a boyfriend and I was living
>with him so I couldnt just drop
>everything to come and see you.
Of course not, she is right. Some girls want a guy on the side, they get
certain benefits from a steady boyfriend that they can't give up so quickly (or
don't want to give up so quickly).
You are
>completely not understanding and Im
>sorry for wasting your time because this
>is really just for my own piece of mind
>because I dont think we could ever work
>out no matter how good the sex was.
>
>It sounds like I could still fuck her
>but I dont know how to respond.
I dunno man, I think you blew it. If you want to try, be 100% cool with her
and suggest a meeting where you forget the past and clear the air and she if
she bites. Tell her email is bad way to communicate and that you should talk
in person. Or at least get her on the phone.
>
>Being nice to her doesnt work... she
>responds when Im an asshole but how do I
>get her to come back over so I can fuck
>her brains out again?
Being nice would have worked fine, you didn't appreciate the original
complexity of her situation with her bf. When she asked you why you were so
mean, she was hoping you'd be nice to her. Not lame, just be cool with her.
-Chaco
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