mASF post by "IN10SE"
posted on: mASF forum: Advanced Discussion, May 5, 2004Shifting between attraction game and comfort game is very intuitive for me.
To me, attraction game is best to start out with and as a default to go back to
when you're in uncharted rapport territory.
So when I'm in comfort game, and things start to get deep, I just break it up
by saying, "Wow... we're getting kind of deep here... we should talk about the
weather or something!" Then I switch into attraction/cocky/playful mode.
When the attraction has been built up a bit, I may ask a serious or deeper
question or switch to something about relationships. It's always a cycling back
and forth between superficial light fun game and deeper meaningful comfort
game.
And about qualifying, I do this in attract game mainly. The way I do this is
that I make the chick qualify herself to me. Let's say were talking and she
mentions something about not being able to cook - I look real disappointed and
say, "Oh.... really? That's too bad - I guess I can't date you then..." and the
chick will almost always start qualifying herself to me... saying things like,
"But I can learn how... and maybe take cooking classes... blah blah..." Then I
say, "I'm just kidding! I just wanted to see what you'd say!" and I laugh with
them.
If she qualifies herself, take it a sign that not only is she interested,
you're also pretty close to your reaching your hook points - depending on the
degree to which she qualifies herself. Getting a woman to qualify herself to
you is basically making a woman supplicate to you. (Notice the frame reversal
from the typical afc/hot chick interaction)
Another one that I do all the time is I'll talk to a chick about music and if
she says something like, "I can't stand country music!" I'll say, "Oh...
really? That's too bad... You know I LOVE country music - it's my favorite... I
guess I can't date you then!..." Then they'll start to apologize and waffle
about how they like SOME country music - etc... and I follow with, "Just
stop... it's really ok... I'm just KIDDING! - I hate country music too - I just
wanted to see what you'd say!"
So this is how I use qualifying in the attract game.
Back to hook points, when the hook point have been reached in both attract and
comfort game- (via the chicks sub-communication/IOI's) then I move into a
seduction game - which is where things take on a sexual vibe.
And as far as a seduction phase hook point - of COURSE there's one! If a chick
comes in to you place after a night out and it's after 1 AM or if she comes in
to your place late in the evening and wants to check out your bed room... and
lays down on your BED, or unbuttons her pants to "relax" or "get more
comfortable"...(!!!) - take this as an OBVIOUS seduction hook point. And of
course when you've reached the seduction hook point - then don't waste any more
energy on comfort game or attract game - just do her!
Comments, Questions?
IN10SE
www.social-mastery.com
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