mASF post by "Jimbo"
posted on: mASF forum: General Discussion newsgroup, August 8, 2005
I agree with Jade and Odin,
i also believe this chick is into you... but maybe not very much though!.
I mean, at least she is into you as much as to keep the dynamic going until she
has to decide what to do with those "flirting games" she is playing.
Will she take her "game" an step further with you, or will she step back and
reject you?. I bet this is precisely the way you are feeling about this. Guess
why. Because it is precisely the way she is also feeling about the interaction
with you.
The good news is she will go further depending of the way she feels. And you
can influence that very much. The bad news is you have very limited time. She
is already taking minor steps back. The BF issue is not only she wants
discretion, but also a way for her to try to reframe the interaction into a
LJBF question without feeling guilty about her past flirting moves with you,
while simultaneously it is a test thrown to you to provoke a more assertive
response, so either you lead and go ahead or you lose her.
Ouch!.
Yeap. I know.
Now, what can you do about it?. Two different possibilities IMO. Select the one
better fitting your personality. Personally i'd go with 1, but it's your life
bro:
1) Increase sexual tension. You have to make clear she turns you on but at the
same time you have to "frame" it like it is impossible for you to go further.
I'd take her by surprise with my arm around her waist, would project sexual
state at full power, close to kiss her, and would go like "It can't happen
darling.... i won't ever get involved with a co-worker..." or even better...
"So bad i just got back with my GF last week... this won't ever happen...".
Sexual tension can be easily increased by showing intense IOIs (both verbally
and in your BL) while using all kind of barriers at hand to make it hard to
happen. It has to be a sort of challenge, while yet funny. So don't do it too
seriously. Take it easy. Be flirtuous. Keep it like a game. She has to feel the
sexual tension while she just must never know if you are really losing your
head for her.
At certain point the giggling and shit won't be enough for her to liberate that
tension. Be aware of her change. As soon as she reciprocates with real sexual
state, isolate and go for the kill. You'll have just one chance probably. If
you fail in hitting the iron when is hot with this kind of women she probably
will feel frustrated and won't open up to you again sexually.
2) Go directly for the kill. Next time with her in a semi-isolation, tell her
this time you are going to "prepare" something different for her and go for it.
If you are assertive enough and she is yet feeling some attraction for you,
this could move the balance in your favour. Risky but time saving. For those
situations when you don't want more time investing and you just feel like it's
now or never.
Keep us reported bro!. ;-)
Regards.
Jimbo
On 8/11/05 8:59:00 PM, rdot wrote:
>Okay I'm going to give as much
>detail as I can so that those
>who read this can have a good
>background to my situation.
>It's long and it's not crappy
>info, so read it all :)
>
>-----
>FOR THE RECORD: I do not agree
>with hooking up with girls at
>work cus I'm against doing
>that, but I'm quitting soon
>and so I'm considering making
>my move then.
>-----
>
>The Evidence:
>
>1) I'm a bartender at a
>restaurant, about 3 months ago
>hb8 started working here.
>She's really hot. I wasn't
>phased though. Totally laid
>back, indifferent body
>language and all. Dropped some
>witty remarks to her now and
>then.
>
>About two months ago, she
>comes to the back with me to
>eat. She grabs a fry from my
>plate and this starts:
>
>Me: who said you can do that
>Her: no one, but you're so
>nice
>Me: really? do I LOOK like a
>gentleman?
>Her: noo, that's why I had to
>steal it :)
>Me: uh huh, what else are you
>gonna take from me
>Her: *smiles* haha, I like
>you, you're funny
>
>2) yadda yadda, time passes. I
>got sick so I didn't go to
>work a lot. Next time I go
>back I see her there. One of
>the customers needed a pen to
>borrow so I get hers. Later on
>in the day she asks for the
>pen back and I obviously
>pretend that the customer
>stole it. She puts on a pout
>and goes:
>
>Her: that was my favourite
>penn I need it back noww
>Me: haha bullshit, stop lying
>to me woman
>
>*she walks off pouting to the
>exit, stops, turns to look at
>me with bigg puppy dog eyes*
>
>Me: haha, dont give me that
>face
>Her: *smiles* haha shut up,
>okay how about this, I'll give
>you this pen I got, it's
>REALLY pretty too.
>Me: hmm, sure, give it
>Her: noo, ill throw it to you
>and you throw yours to me
>Me: uh huh, do i look stupid,
>come here, give me your hand
>
>*i take her left hand with my
>left hand*
>
>Me: okay, we drop the pen and
>grab the other with our free
>hand
>Her: okay
>
>*we do it* and I still have it
>and we both use it as callback
>humour
>
>3) yadda yadda yadda days pass
>(I only see this girl once,
>maybe twice a week).
>
>I start incoroporating High
>Fives with her. I'm really
>good at using the High Fives
>at the right time and she
>loves it everytime I do it.
>
>Other times when I'm in the
>bar, she'd stand to the right
>of me, and just look at me. I
>look back at her and this
>happens:
>
>Her: get the fuck out of my
>way rdot (in this really sort
>of sexy/fiesty/passionate
>voice)
>Me: you get the fuck out of my
>way biatch
>Her: noo you're sposed to
>
>** she moves anyway **
>
>Or she just pushes her body up
>against mine to get something
>that she can clearly walk
>around me and get.
>
>4) If both of us are walking
>towards the same place, she'd
>walk just a little faster to
>get in front of me, then STOP
>so she blocks me and makes a
>little grin. Then I take my
>hands on her shoulders and
>guide her in front of me
>saying something like, "geez
>woman, you're slowing down
>business, move your ass' and
>she just plays along.
>
>5) Some time later, I was
>being playful with another
>girl that works there, and hb8
>comes up from behind me and
>goes to the girl, "he's my
>bitch" and I say, 'yeah and
>she's my ho' and she goes,
>'yeah, I'm his ho'
>
>Ever since then we call each
>other bitch and ho. And I ask
>her for my rent and stuff,
>it's fun. (More callback
>humour)
>
>6) She ALWAYS looks at me with
>these fuck me eyes and talks
>to me in the most seductive
>tone of voice. Of course I'm
>STILL totally indifferent,
>just dropping witty remarks,
>kino sometimes with her, not
>being needy or anything at
>all. My voice tone, EC,
>intonation, BL is solid.
>
>7) She always wants me to come
>eat with her. Always comes to
>me in between her tables when
>I'm eating (I don't ask her to
>at all). By now we just take
>food off each others plates. I
>still bust her for it
>sometimes.
>
>8)THEN this past week, we're
>talking about weird eating
>habits of people, and in the
>most matter of fact way, she
>says, "yeah my boyfriend is
>just like that...'. I totally
>ignored that remark and
>continued on unphased.
>
>9) Before and after #8, she
>always makes an excuse to go
>behind the bar when I'm the
>only one allowed there,
>whether to pour some draft
>beer (which she sucks at, and
>I bust on her righteously) or
>pour a drink, etc.
>
>10) After #8, on the same day,
>she comes to me and asks me to
>make her a drink and she says
>she wants to share it with me.
>I say I wont make it for her,
>but I'll teach her how to make
>it. It's sort of like a
>milkshake, and you use this
>chocolate syrup on top to
>write the letter M. But she
>says, "no no, draw a heart".
>
>We don't really have deep
>rapport. I think today was the
>first time we exhanged stories
>about each other, and talked
>about philosophies. But I'm
>kinda confused here. After all
>these IOI's (and a lot more
>that I just can't remember),
>she indicates that she has a
>bf in the same way someone
>says, 'yeah my car is blue'.
>
>So...where do I stand here?
>What's goin on?
>
>If you read up to here, thanks
>a lot, and I hope to get some
>great insight.
>
>--
>If experience is the greatest
>teacher, and fear is the
>greatest motivator, then
>experiencing fear is the
>greatest lesson
"The reason of the unreason that afflicts my reason, in such a manner weakens
my reason that I with reason lament me of your comeliness." - Don Quijote de la
Mancha
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