mASF post by "gruenfeld"
posted on: mASF forum: General Discussion newsgroup, May 5, 2004
Everday Im learning and I realized that the game is all about, WHO.
Meaning, who is in control, who is in power. In everyday interactions, I
stumbled upon the fact
that each person will strive to be on top of the other. There are many
maneuvers and tricks to put you in this sought for position. Who wins most of
the time? The intelligent ones. Humans have created games, language, customs,
laws, everything...for this primary purpose. It's what we call game.
Reframing, is one of the primary effective tactics. Behavior patterns,
unpredictability.
My point is if you can unsettle the person, you have power over him. Today,
humans are very evolved that most of these "battles" are fought, through
communication alone. Subtleties. Everyday, people are creating more and more of
these subtleties for an advantage. Others, then create counter-offensives.
If we can create this "blushing, loss of control, unsettled and nervous state"
in women, they will chase us. It demonstrates immense value. Field tested,
approved. I've been field testing this with friends, acquaintances, HBs,
everyone. I've been doing this my whole life. The difference between an Alpha
and non-Alpha, is the ability to create as many subtleties in terms of
effectiveness and applicability. If you cannot understand what im saying, let
me give you examples of subtlety. The bitch shield. It's a subtlety developed
by women. And it serves their purpose. Amog tactics. They all have a purpose.
C&F comments and lines. Effective subtleties. Im talking about something like
“tooling”. It takes wit. A sharp mind. A calm mind. To win. Accept the facts
guys. Tooling is done everyday, by everyone. Or more of testing the waters
first. Like slight disrespect. Its testing underneath. This is what you have
to “get”. I recently tooled 2 friends of mine whose testing my waters. I did it
very subtly that I earned their respect. Now, I realize that when I don’t look
at someone, its in my instinct to do that because I learned to “punish” them
subtly. If I detect even a drop of disrespect, I punish it immediately by
ignoring the person. In my case, ignoring=punishment . So basically neg theory
goes with this. Tooling is best, if its done SUBTLY. The other person can’t
attack. He cannot be angry. It’s not an option. He does not know where he
stand. He feels your presence, calmness and command that he has no choice but
to respect you.
So my point is, PU, like any other interaction game, is “tooling” underneath.
Effective tooling requires smarts. It’s what were always training for.
Of course you cannot tool someone if your not cool.
That’s why we get laid. We are cool. Women can’t tool us. We have an armament
of subtleties.
So my point is if the woman can make you blush, so to speak, she has the power.
OTOH, you have the power if you can do otherwise. That’s the primary concept of
the power of “coolness.” If you can demonstrate that she can’t tool you, and
you can tool her, you will always get what you want from her. If she can’t
affect you, she have no power. Therefore, you are the cause. You affect them.
Never let blood gush in your ears. It’s the sign of defeat. Stay calm and cool.
And play the game well. Never show frustration. Damn, never get frustrated.
Keep the relaxation. Once a woman sees that she cannot tool you in anyway, you
WILL get her. It’s the concept of who really doesn’t give a shit. Who really
have value. Just nullify her tooling attempts and demonstrate complete
relaxation and you will be a star in her eyes. You’re looking at her blushing,
smiling face…looking forward to laying her.
You gotta have this calmness and sly knowing smile inside.
Indicating your strength, over their nervousness.
To sum up, Be cool. I know this contradicts comfort building. It’s not on the
same plane.
It’s in the attract phase.
Simple, yet universal.
Gruenfeld
_If you can make her blush, you get a free ride on the bus._
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