mASF post by "Odin Danneskjold"
posted on: mASF forum: General Discussion newsgroup, July 7, 2005I think this is a very legitimate question. It's not AFC or oneitisas far as I
can tell. We get phone numbers to get laid, we arrange meets to get laid. If
they flake, we won't get laid. How to best handle it to reach our goal? It is a
very interesting question, and one I have given some thought.
I have zero tolerance for flaking, and tend to next them as soon as it happens.
A standard line of mine if some girl try to flake on a meet a couple of hours
before is (never had one not showing up) "Tell you what HBwhatever, I'm to busy
to deal with this stuff and I do not need it in my life. Why don't you just
give me a call when you are ready for some fun in your life and you actually
intend to show up. Bye".
This makes it very clear that I will not put up with flaky behaviour and will
not be walked all over. Now, let me be the first to say that I know that this
is probably a DUMBASS move on my part! That is my pride getting in the way, and
while I have had girls throwing themselves at me and apologizing and begging me
to meet up with them, most I never hear from.
Chicks are flaky, period. You can't take this personal, it's not. Even if she
loved you she will often flake for no good reason. If it is a hassle, or she
talked to her ex and doesn't feel like it, or just forgot or whatever. I know
this, yet I don't act on my knowledge. That is one thing I am working on
improving at the moment.
It is all a game, and it is not personal. All right, my two cents so far:
If she said she was gonna call but didn't, call her later when you feel like it
and pretend you don't even remember that she said she was gonna call. Remember:
You are the coolest guy alive, people are knocking on your door and girls are
throwing their panties at you all the time. It's not like you were sitting at
home WAITING for her to call. Have other stuff to do.
If she calls two hours before you are supposed to meet and cancels, it's
trickyer. I think the best option is to let her know it's not cool without
sounding emotional or angry. You didn't piss yourself in excitement to meet
this chick, but you DID put her into your busy schedual and had to tell off
others who wanted the pleasure of your company. I don't agree with the guys who
said you should just playfully tease her about being a flake. Jeez, my friend
just dumped her boyfriend because he never gave her any boundries and always
was so "understanding" if she flaked. Tell her in a matter of fact way that
when people make a commitment to you, you expect them to keep it. On the other
hand, she didn't seem like a flaky person, and unforeseen things can happen
everybody ONCE. So you'll give her a call later. This gives her something to
live up to.
If she doesn't show up, NEXT her.
My take on it anyway, but others might very well have better insights into this
than me. As I said, I tend to be very quick to cut people off for flaking, and
need to work on that. Hope others can post some good responses here.
"Cattle die, kindred die,
Every man is mortal:
But the good name never dies
Of one who has done well
Haavamaal, Words of the High One"
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