mASF post by "harp"
posted on: mASF forum: Field Reports Discussion, February 2, 2004This is my first field report (go easy on me ;-) out of what will hopefully be
many. Before we get into it, a bit about myself:
First off, I hope none of this sounds overly arrogant. I suppose I consider
myself a rAFC. I’m a 24-year-old graduate student at a major university.
While not a head turner, I’m definitely a good-looking guy. I have a good,
social personality. Several times in my life I’ve moved to places where I knew
no one, but have always managed to quickly acquire cool friends who share
similar interests. Looking back almost every girl I’ve got to know and was
interested in, I’ve either dated or layed. I’ve had a few LTR’s in my day, all
of
which sucked in retrospect.
So why am I here? My problem since high school has been that I have not had
what I consider an adequate number of women in my life. When I do come
across a clique of women, I generally end up in some form of sexual
relationship with at least one of them. When that no longer works out my
supply of women dries up to near nothing. Because I have layed and dated
several attractive women in the past I know I can get more and do better. In a
way, I feel like I am squandering the best years of my life.
I would say that I definitely have difficulty meeting quality women. My
primary PU scene has always been clubs and bars, which I generally end up at
least 2 or 3 times per week. I have always had a fear of approaching women,
which I am now starting to get over via advise from this newsgroup, its
archives, and other material such as DYD.
I believe I have realized why I am afraid of approaching women. My attitude
used to be one of “Well, I have nothing to say to these girls.”, so I wouldn't
ever even try. This is unacceptable if I ever hope to increase the number of
quality women in my life. I couldn’t figure out why I was afraid of
approaching, since I do believe I am a pretty good catch. Anyhow, upon
recent reflection, the reason I talk myself out of approaching women
(especially sets larger than 2) is that I simply don’t want to bother them.
For
years, Ive seen time and time again girls despise men who come and hit on
them in bars/clubs. It annoys them. I don’t want to be one of those guys.
:-) I do realize that this doesn't always have to be the case, however. A lot
of
the material I’ve been exposed to (esp. Mystery’s stuff and DYD) I have no
doubt would work on sets of women.
I first found mASF/FS.com about a year ago. I read much of the players guide,
which I didn’t feel would jive well with my personality, so I only bookmarked
the site. It wasn't until I read DYD a few months ago that I really began to
really understand what was possible in the pick-up scene.
With that…on to the FR:
***FRIDAY NIGHT***
We start off Friday at a college bar that was a mixed crowd of older people
(alumni) and girls there with their (guy) friends. Before we get started I had
set a goal to approach at least 4 women that night. There were really only
two HB7’s sittin at the bar that were approachable. My wing went up and
chatted with the one for a bit. I wasn't feeling the scene there and we left
after about an hour.
From there we go to another college bar where I had got a BJClose the
weekend before. The scene here is infinitely better. I go up to the bar to
get
a beer. HB 6.5-7 comes up next to me to order. I say fuck it and go with
elvis. It gets a decent response, but she says she doesn't believe the story
(but it wasn't a bad reaction). I then run the candy routine (M&Ms or Reeces
pieces). Again, it went alright, but I think it might have come across as
canned. Does anyone have any more info on this opener? I’ve only seen it
briefly mentioned here.
After that I eased up a bit. I decided I was gonna stick with that same
routine
and try to get it down better. I ended up running it about 5 or 6 times at
that
bar (already exceeding my 4 approach requirement). Basically I think overall
they all went pretty well, but the best girl I tried it on was an HB 8-8.5, who
was way too distracted. On girl grabbed me after I ran my routine and said
that she had enjoyed our little conversation. Too bad she was at best a 6,
lol.
I’m only looking for 8.5 and better.
This part is important: My wing started chatting up a 5 or 6 set and was
doing well on the target HB8.5. He was getting lucky and feeding off the
miserable failure of an obnoxious guy who wouldn't leave them alone. They
had been chatting for probably 45 mins to an hour. We decide its best to
leave while he’s ahead (she def. wasn't the type to fuck right after meeting).
He arranges a meeting with her and her friends at the basketball game the
next day (this is why its important).
So we leave here and goto a beat party. There was one HB there with her
boyfriend and a few warpigs and a few HB7-8’s. I chatted up 4 girls…nothing
overly interesting there. I ran elvis once there just for the hell of it.
From there we go to after hours. Here I got a case of quasi-oneitis. This
HB9.5 that I’d seen before was there. I love this girl—totally my style. Last
time I was there I told her she had a sweet tattoo. She said thanks and that
she had just got it that past Sunday for her birthday (she’s 24). This was on
the dance floor when her and I had both kinda stopped dancing for a bit.
That was the end of that. I could do better if I had that opportunity again.
Anyhow, back to Friday night. This girl mesmerizes me, but never stops
dancing with her girl friend. I think to myself how I couldn’t possibly run
the
routine I’d been doin on her given the dance-floor situation and my only
mediocre success with it up to this point. So at this point I basically I turn
into uber-AFC. When the night starts winding down at 3:30 I go up to her
and ask her if she’s here every weekend. She says “yeah, pretty much” with a
smile. Then I fucking ask her where she’s from…wtf was I thinking. She says
she’s lived here pretty much her whole life…I say she looks like a NYC-type
girl. She smiles and that was about that. So yeah…that fucking sucked. We
go home. I’m not totally pissed since I did 13 approaches that night, which is
a lot better than I set out to do. I now know I can set the bar higher.
***SATURDAY***
Saturday we meet up with the girls from last night at the hoops game at half
time. These girls are all very, very cool. They range from HB5-HB 8.5 in an 8
set. They’re chatting us up, asking where we live, what we’re studying, etc.
After the game was over they invite us to come to a bar with us (same one
where we met em). At the bar, my wing and I were standing there chatting up
the target from the night before. The best looking one in the set came up to
us and said that she hadn’t been introduced. We get introduced and start
talking about Europe (I’m going there this summer, she was just there last
summer). We had a great conversation about that. I was doing a good job
asking her which cities she like the most and why, where should I go, etc.
No routines were needed since it was just good, flowing conversation.
After that she offered to buy my wing and I a shot, so we obliged. She’s
now my target :-). Two more shots later, we head to another bar. When I get
there I have a seat at the bar, the target sits down next to me. Again, we had
more great conversation, talking about the gym, school, bustin her a bit
about being from Cleveland (I’m orig. from Pittsburgh—big rivalry there).
Looking back I suppose we were in rapport, but it wasn't sexual at all. During
this conversation she mentioned that she had a boyfriend back in Cleveland
but that she never sees him and that she only goes home maybe 2 or 3 times
a semester. The conversation breaks up a bit when HB9 and HB8.8 come in.
My target tells me that HB 9 is from Cleveland also, so I ask her if she’s a
Browns fan. She says “yes”. I say “That sucks—I’m from Pittsburgh”. She
starts jokingly going off “Ohh fuck you and your steelers, blah blah” I just
laugh at her, which I think showed that I wasn’t a pussy. After that she asks
me my name and we chat a little ( I had a better in with my target, so I
decided to not pursue HB9…I guess that was a mistake? Would you go for
the better bet or the better lookin one? [mind you, they’re both very
attractive]).
Now my wings target starts semi-jokingly saying how I was gonna hook up
with my target tonight (they’re roomies). I had good vibes comin from all the
friends so I felt pretty good about everything.
The night goes on…the bar starts to dance. I head out on the dance floor and
my target starts to dance with me. We dance for a bit then I pull away, I
guess trying to confuse her or not give her too much. This is probably not
the correct move. Anyhow I go downstairs to take a piss and come back up
and start dancing with her again. She’s pulling me closer, wrapping her arms
around my neck, etc. I put my nose down into her neck to go for the turn-
on. It seems to be working. I notice her over my shoulder look at HB9, who
knew her boyfriend. She puts her finger to her lips to make the “Shhhh” sign.
At this point I was damn sure I was in…..she was signaling to HB9 to not tell
her boyfriend she was with me.
So from there, my AFC ass goes back downstairs for reasons I still do not
understand. I just wanted to cool off a bit I guess. I come back and she’s
sitting down completely out of state and unresponsive. This is getting way to
fucking long so I’ll just say that that was it for my target and I. Maybe she
felt guilty about dancing with me. Anyhow, she gives me a hug and kiss on
the cheek when we’re all saying bye. I’ll definitely see her again though so
all
hope may not be lost, but whatever.
I learned to never stop dancing with her when she’s pulling you in and getting
closer. Fuck. I guess I kinda got a conscience about hookin up with a HB
with a boyfriend too :-\. Anyone else like that? How do you handle yourself?
Anyhow, I apologize for the length of this FR. I hope it is easy to read. Any
advice is always appreciated :-)
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