mASF post by "tmcgee"
posted on: mASF forum: Advanced Discussion, September 9, 2004I understand what you're saying, and agree with you. I suspect that the masf
process is something akin to martial arts: a process of learning and, later,
unlearning. (As Tyler Durden implied in a very interesting post, I thought.)
I don't think you can deny that rightly or wrongly many beginners feel a real
need, though. I can't speak for all beginners, obviously, but many seem
unhappy, frustrated, angry. (I have those days myself.) Why else would anyone
come here, after all? There's nothing great about admitting you can't handle
this part of your life -- it's kind of embarrassing.
I think there's a sub-theme in a lot of masf postings that might be summarized
as "masf should be about self-improvement, not finding a woman". Fair enough. I
even agree that's a worthwhile end. It's like obtaining transferable job
skills: the old saw about give a man a fish he eats for a day, but teach him to
fish, etc. But tell that to a man who's starving. Yes, it's true, but it's not
especially helpful for his present predicament -- he wants a fish now, dammit.
I guess what I'm saying is don't knock the structures of masf. Do people overdo
it? Sure -- it doesn't take a genius to see that your critiques are accurate.
More generally, do I agree that inner game» is the central issue? Sure. But
people need a route, need some kind of way to start out.
tmcgee
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