mASF post by "n3rv1"
posted on: mASF forum: Advanced Discussion, December 12, 2004I'm with epitome in thinking this is a bit over-analytical. I try to be of the
mindset that "whatever works" is what you should do, but this LEAN BACK
business is the kind of shit that fucked me up when I first started reading
ASF. You go and internalize something hyper-specific like a guy saying, "the
farther you lean back the more ALPHA you are," and you end up walking around
like you're at a lou-oau for the next year and a half. On top of it all, it's
not easy to get rid of behavior like this once you convince yourself it's the
shit to do.
Fuck, it's a lot more effective just to say, "be relaxed," and give a few
examples, letting a guy decide for himself what that means to him, instead of
telling him bending over backwards (literally) is what "cool people" do. Gimme
a break. Want some real advice on how to appear alpha? Here's some: unpucker
your asshole. That's right, try feeling your asshole (not with your hand) once
in a while, and notice if you're acting as if you're holding in a massive dump.
Relax your sphincter and everything else tends to go with it. Here's another
tip: don't be so self-conscious that you are constantly worried about what
kind of signals you're sending. I'll bet you 200-1 that if you honestly don't
give a fuck, and aren't worried if you're sending "beta" body signals or
whatever the fuck, and just be cool (and I don't mean California cool here),
you will do just fine. I see almost every day poor guys who walk around
screaming, "WHAT DO YOU THINK OF ME" with their body language, and that is ten
times worse than leaning in or leaning to the side or whatever other direction
might seem to be the uncool thing to do. Jee-willickers, I could probably make
a living off of teaching that to guys in real life workshops. Fortunately I
feel I have better things to do with my time.
Tommy W Principles? Wow, I should be so honored. Real Social Dynamics at
work. Ha.
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