mASF post by "chariot"
posted on: mASF forum: Advanced Discussion, August 8, 2005
like all the great PUA's - i notice even the slightest shifts in my game... its
all a process and shifts can take weeks or months. but its good to be aware of
them.
when i consistently started hooking and attracting extremely early, i realised
that ultimately i was supremely comfortable in set.
like when im rolling up to girls - there are some thought processes that never
really occur anymore, but they used to. My mind used to be swirling with things
to say, how i was going to approach... like a movie in my head i would watch
the set go down before it did... and it rarely happened as the movie preview
predicted.
so as i started gaining more and more field experience, i started not being
outcome dependant AT ALL... like ZERO. I would roll in and ASSUME ALWAYS that
it was on.
doing things like
- Yelling "Hey!!!!... ok welcome back" at the girls if they werent focused
- Pulling them back physically if they are about to leave (on a positive vibe)
- Looking at girls as if they are RETARTED if they arent listening to me
- Any bullshit thrown at me is treated exactly how i would treat a 5 year old
- Blatantly telling girls i love them and want them to have my children and we
have a special connection in a cocky way that they play along with
- Cavemanning girls away from their friends smoothly enough for the friends not
to interfere.
- Telling them DUMB stories about my first kiss in elementary school and making
them listen because its entertaining me
- Totally fucking with them and they know it
- Any negativity from the girl DISARMED as smooth as silk with total non
reactiveness
like the best cocktail, its the right mix of CHARACTER (style, conversational
skill and uniqueness), PRESENCE (tonality, body language) and POSITIVITY (fun)
that gets the best results.
always be conscious of what you are PROJECTING... what do you sub communicate
as a person?... what are the most high value people projecting?
how to mix the best cocktail...
here is an excersise i do with my students at RSD:
think of the most RETARTED, SILLY thing to say to a girl (not anything sexual
or disgusting)...
for example: "My dad has three green cats and one pink one"
walk up to a girl and spit your retarded line as an opener then just sit there
- totally unreactive.
if she runs away - you DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT MIX
if she looks super weirded out - you DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT MIX
however
if she asks what? huh? say that again? or laughs - your good, congratulations -
you project high value
NOW this also teaches us that the game is not VOCAL based... its what you are
projecting that matters.
I used to want the BEST lines to say, the best stories, the best routines...
but i wasnt focusing on what i was projecting...
thats why this whole INDIRECT vs DIRECT opening thing is bullshit. They both
work, in different logistical contexts... for example id rather stop a moving
street set with an opinion opener rather than "HEY, My names Tim"
Having said that, hey my names tim has worked for me countless times because im
projecting the right things... in my tonality, my presence, my unreactiveness -
i honestly do not care.
Last weekend a student asked TD to teach him good body language... he said
"Heres good body language... NOT WEIRD..."
So to ultimately be comfortable in set
1. You should have no thoughts in your head as you roll up. None. Like just
think about an opener and thats IT
2. Be conscious of what you are projecting - do retarded line exercise until
you are consistently hooking girls right off that opener
3. Think about the right mix of Character, Presence and Positivity that suits
and attracts you
4. You are NEVER REACTIVE. A girl says "I HATE YOU" - you say "Have you ever
eaten a lemon?"
good luck - and always have fun playing. I am.
chariot
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