mASF post by "Jestor"
posted on: mASF forum: General Discussion newsgroup, July 7, 2005On 7/19/05 7:31:00 PM, Prime Alpha wrote:
>Anticipation is having the
>girl wait a couple of days
>before you call, wondering. It
>doesn't mean calling after 3
>weeks.
This matter of timing totally depends on the girl. This timing issue doesn't
so much apply for setting up the first date, but applies more so after having
gone out with the girl ONCE already. It must be the relationship vibe that a
guy gives off when he calls too soon after the first date, in order to set up a
second one. It totally repels many girls.
I want to be clear that I am basing these claims totally on my experiences, and
*not* on misogynist type feelings. I also don't want guys to embrace the
idealist notion that's it's okay to be sappy and call a girl soon after just
because it means less negativity and more positivity. If anything this is a
call for balance, and understanding that sometimes playing fair makes for
shitty game.
For those of you who like stats, here are mine. After dates with 60+ different
women, 20+ lays and well over a hundred #'s and emails, and countless flaking,
I can conclude that making a girl wait is a powerful weapon in your kit. But
you have to know when to use it.
If the girl is very enthusiastic about being with you, and hasn't shit tested a
lot, and hasn't ended the interaction prematurely just when things were heating
up, then yes, it just might be in your best interest to call her a few days
later.
But if the girl is a higher shit tester, is jaded with men, is clearly holding
something back despite being attracted, and ends the date in a 101 fashion just
when things are heating up, then yes, it just might be in your best interest to
make her wait several weeks before contacting her again.
Looking back at all the girls who I attracted and whom I contacted a few days
after the first date they:
- went out with me again the next week
- went out with me again a few weeks later (they put *me* on hold)
- blew me off, totally flaking despite clear attraction on the first date
Who knows, maybe my dominant style of game demands a COOLING OFF period for the
tougher chicks who are more jaded towards AFCs and THEREFORE JADED TOWARDS ANY
VIBE SIGNALING POSSIBLE RELATIONSHIP DESIRE ON THE PART OF THE MAN.
I recommend an extensive trial and error period for anyone who can't quite
understand when to make her wait or when to follow up soon after. I only know
that for me and the way I do things I have to be willing to make some chicks
wait in order to over-subcommunicate lover material and that I don't want a
relationship.
Example, I had one chick last year tell me at the end of the first date, after
hardcore attracting and persisting (but to no avail), "If after a month you
decide that you want to see me again, call me".
Another woman told me, "I like it when I don't know what a guy is going to do
next".
Another women, after making out with me on the bed (no sex though), emailed me
the day after telling me she had a good time. So I emailed her back saying the
same and I also suggested we get together again, and she replied "yeah, I guess
we can do that"..and we never did go out again..doh LOL
Another woman (from internet) at the end of the date, feeling I would maybe
next her, gave me her digits and asked me to call her. She was quite shy/cold
and I was all over her but in a pleasant way, she just wouldn't open up. She
tells me that the next week she is going out of town, but after that she is
free. So I contact her later on when she said she would be free - but long
story short she was "too busy" to come out. And I never did go out with her
again.
See what I'm saying players?? Fuck idealism and happy thoughts. Figure out
the level of TIGHTENING that you need, and do what WORKS.
I don't know about you but my analytical mind works overtime when women say and
do things like this. It's like the cloud cover temporarily breaks and you
catch a glimpse of the truth before the clouds move back in.
One of the hottest women I fucked I made her wait 4 weeks before calling her,
and it worked because of the way our previous interaction had ended. She
didn't express enough interest and enthusiasm in me to make me want to call her
again soon after. So I had to disappear for a while to raise that interest
level.
Best advice is: Experiment with your own style and get to a point where you can
guage the girl and based on that decide on the suitable time dimension after.
It just so happens that many women I encounter are deserving of the harsher
treatment and I play along accordanly. I call these women Secret Society
women. And stats don't lie.
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"So what you don't want to fuck me! Do you have any idea how many chicks have
pussies and mouths??" - MrSex4uNYC
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