mASF post by "jessieblue"
posted on: mASF forum: Field Reports Discussion, June 6, 2005Thanks for the clarifications RJ. I now have a plan in mind for next time. A
few things I'm still wondering:
>Yes, now you know why I can successfully open about 90% of my approaches.
>Keep it up and I have no doubt you'll be able to do the same, if not better!
:)
I think I'm opening the same way you do, but I'm not sure. I go in facing her,
with a sly smile on my face, say something like:"there's something I find
attractive about you, I'm not sure what, but it made me want to meet you". As
I'm saying that , I slowly place my hand on her waist, or her lower back. Does
that sound right, is that the way you do it?
After that I usually say :"I'm Jessieblue" and extend my hand (is it ok saying
my name that fast?). Now, i'm looking for a girl who is attractive, likes
physical activity, is smart, has a sense of humour, is romantic, gives great
massages, likes good movies and is not LSE(and a few other qualities, but I
already ruled out about 90% of the chicks and this is starting to look like a
personal ad so I'll keep it at that). So, from what you told me, here is where
I continue with something like:
I get the feeling that you are an active girl, and like sports once in a while.
I am like that. I feel good relaxing and enjoying myself watching a movie, but
sometimes I love to get that feeling you get after a good workout when the
muscular fever starts setting in and you have that pleasant tiredness when you
just like a good massage. Have you ever felt that?
Now she would probably pick-up something she likes from my description of
myself doing things I'm passionate about: Oh I like
sports\working-out\movies\massages\relaxing myself\etc.
Me: Cool, what kind of sports\movies\etc, do you like?
HB: bla, bla
Me: Really, I always wanted to try that sport\watch that movie\do Xactvity? How
is it like?
HB: bla, bla
Meanwhile, I get closer to her, touch her longer, smile when she sais something
I like.
Feel free to correct anything you would do differently in the interaction above
Now, I already have something to work with next time I walk into a club, but I
am curious: could you tell me at what point should I kiss her, venuechange her,
take her # and go for the isolation to f-close. I would like to have a complete
plan in mind so I know what to aim for.
more comments below:
>This is where alot of guys have misconceptions. They think opening chicks like
this gives away >all the "power". Which is just insecurity talking IMO. When
you truly don't give a shit about >what others think of you, then you'll
realize that you're not giving away shit when you approach >like this.
What power does she get? A good-looking, interesting, smart guy just started
talking to her. At any point she isn't reacting like a girl I'm looking for, I
smile and walk out of her life. I don't see how she can take that power from
me?
>OK, sorry for the misunderstanding. What I meant to say was that yes, you did
skip the >rapport part altogether.
>What you should have done was jumped into rapport/midgame right after the
opener. Is this >clearer?
Yes, I get it now.
> So combine this technique above with kino and gradual escalation at the right
time and you >will be unstoppable! :)
At what point do I escalate kino? What do you mean by right time?
>Well come on down to the Euro Summit and you'll get to meet me. I'll be on one
or 2 of the >discussion panels and will also be running a mini workshop, I
think. All the details aren't >worked out yet, but should be pretty
soon.
I would love to do just that, but my life is quite messy right now as I'm
finishing college and plan on moving to another country in the next few months,
but who knows how things evolve.
>Well hopefully this has opened your eyes a bit and helps you move forward.
It has , you will see FRs soon in which I apply your advice. That's exactly the
feedback I needed to go forward, And I'm sure I can do that know.
You know, I consider myself quite intelligent and I like getting informative
replies. I find them interesting. Have you ever felt that way before,
Razorjack? How do you feel when you help out guys? What do you find most
intriguing about that?(placing my hand on RJ's lower back... sorry man,
couldn't help myself :).
Jessieblue
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