mASF post by "Sharpshooter"
posted on: mASF forum: Advanced Discussion, August 8, 2005I've been amazed at how a friend of mine, Ryan, is able to lay beautiful, smart
women, despite being okay but not great in the looks department. He's about
five ten, thin and fit, but not muscular. His clothes are ordinary: no flashy
designer clothes or peacocking or bling. He doesn't have much money or power.
He's smart but he doesn't show off or come across as brilliant in conversation.
So how does he beat out guys who are a foot taller than him, who always go to
the gym and drive expensive sports cars?
I've tried why he does so well, and this is what I've found.
1) I've never seen him worry about a woman. He's always sure that everything
will be fine, no matter what stage he's in: introducing himself, having a
conversation, escalating to sex, handling the relationship (if he choose to
have one). He doesn't get nervous, anxious, stressed out, or needy.
2) He has zero arrogance. He never raises his voice or brags or pushes around
other people. He's confident AND relaxed (no need to prove to anyone,
including himself, that he's a cool guy).
3) He strikes a good balance between high and low energy. Too much energy and
a guy seems like a manic clown. Too little energy and he risks being mopey,
depressed, and withdrawn. Ryan's energy level is exactly right: he's able to
have a good time in a way that women can keep up with him.
4) He likes to tell brief stories about funny things that have happened to him
and to other people. The tough part to get right is how he never seems like
he's trying too hard. His delivery is the same as how a person would act if
you just said something that reminded him, spontaneously, of a funny incident.
5) His body language is excellent. He has a genuine smile that comes easily
to him. His body movements are never abrupt (he doesn't wave his hands all
over the place) or diffident (he doesn't look down at the ground or avoid eye
contact).
6) He's not pushy sexually, but women want to sleep with him because they have
such a good time with him, and he seems like a normal guy who is safe (won't do
anything crazy). Normal, here, doesn't mean "average." Instead, it means
"never behaves in ways that are strange, awkward, scary, sketchy, or weird."
Very few men are normal in that sense. Ryan is one of them.
7) He has the best first date venue. He takes his dates sailing. The girls
love being out on the water on a sunny, summer afternoon. It's memorable,
beautiful, and exciting. It really beats coffee or dinner.
You could call his game "normal, natural game», plus sailing." It's jaw
droppingly successful.
Sharpshooter
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