mASF post by "Chris Odom"
posted on: USENet: alt.seduction.fast newsgroup, September 9, 2000
On Thu, 21 Sep 2000, Martin Harvey wrote:
> Firstly, how important is it that you stick exactly to the patterns? It
> seems to me, you might have to do a bit of ad-libbing depending on what
> sort of a reaction you get.
Well if you study speed seduction, ie the official course materials, it
instructs you to NOT use the patterns in the field. Rather, you are
supposed to train yourself to TALK THAT WAY NATURALLY. THe patterns are
merely examples to help you learn this skill.
Also, you are not merely supposed to "do a bit of ad-libbing" depending on
what reaction you get. Rather, you are supposed to custom-tailor the
entire conversation to the responses you are getting. The whole point of
NLP is to calibrate to a person's internal map of the world and
communicate to them in a way that accesses their deepest, innermost parts
of their being.
> Secondly, looking at the patterns on the "How To Lay Girls Guide", the
> first thing that strikes me is that there's a lot of dialogue to
> remember, and you're going to have to recite it smoothly and flawlessly
> when the time comes. Do you guys practice your lines in front of the
> mirror, or what?
It IS important that you practice having good tonality and delivery, but
the LAST thing you want to do is recite a few stock patterns at her, see
above.
> Thirdly, It seems that reading and sending out the right body language
> are really important. My body language reading skills have improved
> immensely over the past year or so, but I still reckon I can come across
> as too shy or nervous. Would hypnotherapy help by reprogramming *my*
> subconscious to give out the right signals?
The unconscious communications that you broadcast are state-dependent.
Change your state and your body language will change with it. A big part
of speed seduction is developing your "google" which is a reference to an
attitude that is "playful, unaffected, curious, cocky."
In other words, don't try to "lie" with your body language in order to
pretend that you have the right attitude. Instead, actually have the
right attitude.
> Anyway... I've got Ross' book on order, so no doubt all will become
> clear.
Ross's book is like 10 years old and doesn't really cover speed seduction.
It still has some good info in it but it's probably not what you are
looking for. Furthermore, the book comes free with the SS home study
course, AND the book is available for free on the web...check out
www.seductionnow.com
Does that "clear" things up for you? FYI, I guess that your primary
representiational system is auditory, and if I were to speak primarily in
auditory terms, I would gain rapport with you. This is an example of
calibrating to the person you are communicating with.
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