mASF post by "Outrageous"
posted on: mASF forum: Field Reports Discussion, May 5, 2005Sunday, May 15, 2005
Yesterday I went to the “Taste of Addison” event. I opened a few sets but my
game felt pretty off overall. There was one good set worth mentioning with a
fine ass target and her chunky friend. I opened with asking the two girls
“What’s the deal with girls leaving their stuff over at guys houses?”
and then proceeded to evolve the conversation through topics.
My friend Alphonso was a good wing and kept the chunk-al-lunk busy while I ran
my game. I got passed the hooking point through body language and teasing
(though I could have been more teasing.) After I initiated a change in scenery
with a walk but then my material ran dry. I began to be tempted to go to “death
topics” (where you from, where you work, what you do) stuff, but resisted. I
decided to stick with it a plough through anyway. Alphonso broke out on my
target with some cheesy SS connection shit, and I think this shit scared her
away. While they waited in line for some food, I opened a couple and turned my
back to the targets. I noticed them walking away, and did nothing to bring them
back in.
What did I do well?
Opened set, used good body language, and moved during set. I encouraged going
on a walk and leaded the group.
What would I have done differently?
I need to find a way to keep sets rolling strong and have enough material to
plough through lulls in conversation. Also, when I lead the group it would have
been better to have a place in mind when we went on the walk, or at the least
have a good response for “Where to?”
I opened a few good sets, but I kept wanting to go to AFC question land soon
after the set was getting started. I think I will do better with more material.
Later, I realized that one of the bars would be having free liquor and beer all
night, so I decided to turn it into a party. I began calling down my phone list
and inviting all kinds of people on it.
I think one mistake I made was by calling HB Café Brazil Blond even after I
told her to call me. I left some AFC message about I know she was supposed to
call me, but I’m throwing a party. The voice mail started to act funny and I
called back a second time to leave the message. In hindsight calling at all was
a mistake I do not want to do after I have instructed a girl to call me.
What would I have done differently?
Not called a girl who I instructed to call me first.
One of the girls I called was HB Little P, she wanted to go to the “party” but
her car was acting up. We arranged for me to come scoop her up. We went to eat
first and she kept asking me to massage her shoulders. I told her no, and made
her wait a little while, though if I were to do it again I would made her have
wait even longer.
When the check came, I told her to break out her money. She started to, but
then didn’t. I already went to pay and used my credit card. I told her to leave
a tip and she left a dollar. This bothered me, and I put another of my own
dollars down. This was a bad sign, and I was not happy with my behavior, but
didn’t feel like making a big deal about the money.
When we get there, I find out she’s only 20 and cannot get into the bar. This
pissed me off, but I didn’t show it because I kind of felt like I could have
prepared her better. It would have probably been best to just take that broad
home because it shows that I need to take care of my people that I invited.
Anyway, we start walking and she’s really going after the get to know you
rapport stage. I grab her hand to hold it as we’re walking, and at first she
does not return the squeeze pressure. I keep it in there, and there is only a
slight amount of pressure holding the hands together.
We sit on a bench in the park and continue the get to know you shit. I can’t
help but thinking that she’s trying to do the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship
number on me, but I’m having some difficulty reframing at first. Some dancing
to some Latin grooves on the dance floor at a nearby bar/restaurant and then we
go back to my car.
Eventually the conversation gets to me telling her how I’m not boyfriend
material and why. Afterwards she continually called me “Alfie.” From the move.
Back to my house to watch a movie. We watch “Cocktails” with Tom Cruise and
keeps teasingly asking if that’s the story of my life. I’m leaning back
throughout the movie, and eventually we find ourselves closer. I start playing
with her hair, I kiss her. Although her lips were tender, it seemed clear that
I was the one doing the kissing. A couple more and she wants to take it slow.
I’m feeling like she’s trying to do the Boyfriend/Girlfriend wait game, and I’m
not sure how to go beyond that here tonight.
So that’s that.
What did I do well?
I extracted to my house and developed trust between us so she felt comfortable
coming back to my place.
What would I have done differently?
I would have kissed her once and then stopped and made her wait to let her
anticipation rise.
Sunday, May 15, 2005
Today HB Little P texts messages me with:
“Whatcha’ doin’ today?
I did not respond. Her orbit is trying to get too close too fast. Maybe I’ll
give her a shout when the string of tension has tightened up.
Sometimes it’s easy for me to get past resistance and take the girl where I
want her immediately. I did not like how it seems that this chick wants to take
it slow and was unsure as to how to escalate further in the evening. This
dissatisfaction is driving me to discover better ways to escalate through the
programming and B.S.
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