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mASF post by "Bassman"
posted on: mASF forum: General Discussion newsgroup, May 5, 2005
<h4nsel> wrote in message news:[email protected]...
> I have a problem here though: I am very self-conscious about my
appearance;
> specifically my ears.
>
> What type of mindset should I have to stop being so insecure about my
> appearance?
>
well, the overall mindset is that YOU'RE the one making the choices... she's
entitled to her little opinion about any part of your appearance, but it's
totally irrelevant to you...
and don't let any rude rejections you get alter that belief... even if a
woman criticises your appearance immediately after you approach, she's
probably only thinking of the best and quickest way to get you out of her
face.. she isn't REALLY offended by your ears
if you get anything about your ears from her when you're into the
conversation (you hardly ever will), treat it as a shit-test and reframe
it... the very moment you want to wince at the 'rekindled childhood memory
stuff' is the moment it's best to give your broadest Tom Cruise beam at her
because YOU KNOW right then that she's testing you... she wouldn't be
testing if she wasn't interested :)
honestly...having sticking out ears (or whatever) will only stop you being
successful with women if you let it... it's easy to rationalize these things
and think things like "i'm unsuccessful with women because they're
subconsciously looking for a mate to produce attractive offspring so even if
they like me they're afraid to spawn large-eared offspring etc....."...
I have pretty big sticking out ears and it was only a problem when I let it
change the way I would behave to people... like not facing people full-on so
they could only see one ear at a time :) or growing long hair and hiding
underneath it...
(deep down I always knew it was BS because I went to school with another guy
who also had big ears (bigger than mine) and he was very successful with
girls)
I don't know if you've seen many of the more 'famous' PUA's, but many of
them aren't especially good looking... if you get David DaAngelo's 'Mastery'
DVD's and take a look at Tyler Durden, David D himself, 26, Rick H... not
looking like Brad Pitt didn't stop these guys
before I actually saw pictures or video of some of the more 'famous' PUA's,
I invariably had a mental picture of them that was far better looking than
they turned out to be... maybe because I still had some AFC residue of 'only
good looking guys get so many women, really'... but I think a lot of it was
because their force of personality made me imagine them to be better looking
than they turned out to be...
well weirdly enough, women are a little like that... if you convey the right
things in your personality, they actually convince themselves you're better
looking than you are... even though they're standing right in front of
you... :)
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