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Forget PU just for a minute.
Do you have a life that you love?
Do you wake up in the morning with a big smile on your face because your life is yours’?
Do you stop yourself during the course of a day and see how many people around you look like their life is hard and not worth living
I do, frequently.
Why?
It’s my choice to have a great and fulfilling life, women or no women…preferably with women.
This wasn’t the case back in my AFC days. Everyday seemed like a test of will. It was me verses the rest of the world. I didn’t realize it at the time but it was huge strain on my inner game» and on my life in general. Most mornings, I dreaded waking up, not because I knew what my day held but because I didn’t know what the day held for me. Simply put, I was scared all the time.
Why?
Was it because someone would piss me off during the course of my day? It was my choice to be scared. I never saw it that way but it was always my choice. I let my fear control me and it impacted the people around me.
I didn’t realize it at the time but I drove people away from me.
Then I found this site and lurked for a year and a half. What made me find this site was the misconception that women would improve my life; the thought that women would somehow add value to me and make me happy with me. I a short, thinly veiled it did. But as I knew, when the women were gone, my inner game» was shaken.
When I opened a set, I opened with a sense of false self confidence. Honestly, now that I think about it, I was outcome dependent because the success or failure of opening/hooking sets affected my state directly.
Finally, I was told by someone on this site that I needed to stop seeking validation in others and create a life that made me happy. He couldn’t have been more right.
Now, don’t get me wrong when I said that I focused the majority of my attention creating a life that make me happy, I wasn’t a hermit. I invested time with friends, going hiking and going to the beaches, basically building stronger bonds. I invested time in making new friends; creating new bonds. My library has quadrupled in size with very few of the books that I’ve bought being about PU in any shape or form. I wanted to cultivate me and my interests outside of women. All of this added value to me and added value to others.
This focus created what I like to call the “Across the Universe state,” (Nothing is going to change my world) which is inspired the Beatles tune “Across The Universe.” For me, this is the perfect state.
I love my life and people, not just women sense this. My presence is value because of the way people feel around me, which in turn added value to me and my life.
A couple of weeks ago, I had 2 girls flake on me back to back; literally Friday flake/ Saturday flake. It was no big deal. I wasn’t crushed. I didn’t and don’t care why they flaked. I went out both nights and # and kiss closed a few times. Fuck it, why not; I wanted to go out to begin with. I have the power to make myself happy right this second and every second of my life because that is all that matters to me.
A good, strong inner game» with a foundation that you have created can not be emphasized enough.
A funny side story that happened this past weekend, which only illustrates my point more, I went out lone wolf this past Friday. I ran into one of the girls that I met on one of the nights I was flaked on. She watched me as I entered the bar and as I looked for a few of my friends. As I passed her, she asked if I remembered her name, which of course I did. Then I asked if she remembered mine, which she didn’t but asked what it was. My reply was a joyful belly laugh right in her face as I walked away. To me, the thought of a girl that is attracted to me and not knowing my name is about one of the funniest things that I have ever heard of; it’s like not knowing the name of your favorite food. How could I be insulted with something as cute, and obviously feminine, shit test or not, as that? The simple fact that I can laugh at what most guys would find ego crushing sub communicates so many positive things about the way I view life and my life in general.
Oh yeah, of course I gave her my name later and we spent most of the night together…but that’s different subject.
In short, I don’t want you to stop sarging, go out and refine your skills, but realize, that for must of us, 90% of the reason we had difficulties with meeting women is because of ourselves. It is a must that you change yourself and your outlook on life if you ever expect to become even slightly naturally attractive. Every single one of you, right now, has the power to do this. Be man enough to offer value unlike any other man she has ever met, and a chance to be apart of your experience. Be man enough to be happy with yourself and your life regardless of if she wants to share your experiences or not.
Now go out and build a better and enjoy it. Women with be attracted and come into your life…with some guidance and a little effort from you.
