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I don't typically post here because of the signal-to-noise ratio - but I see a lot of crap here on the forums from time to time (and a whole pile of overpriced stuff in the commercial world too)
So I thought I'd come in here and drop a few hints to those to sum up what works for those confused.
(1) Jerk, alpha, nice guys, and all that.
Experience in the field tells me that WOMEN LOVE SEX. Actually, they really love attention from men too - but in reality, they can't have sex with every guy (although many may like too).
A woman, in her raw form, actually LOVES to be a huge slut and have lots of sex with different guys. Unfortunately, society places a lot of mental blocks in a lot of women's minds to prevent them from realising this - so while they may like to fuck everybody - it turns out that only a few guys cut the mustard.
If you've had enough one-night stands, you'll start to realise a particular trend -- and that is, you may REALLY get along well with the chick that you had sex with - but she doesn't want to see you anymore for some reason. Then she goes home and accuses men of wanting her only for sex -- yet, she NEVER calls you up to see you again DESPITE your constant invitations to do so!
In retrospect the ONLY conclusion a guy can come to is that women ACTUALLY USE MEN for sex! When viewed from a biological perspective, this actually makes sense. She only needs your sperm, and once you have done your duty, she no longer needs you for anything. Furthermore, if you were good enough for her, she'll get out of your way and let you screw the rest of the population.
When women need sexual that relief, they are looking for guys who are going to be:-
EASY
NON-NEEDY
HARMLESS
NON-DAMAGING-SOCIALLY
GOOD IN BED
There may be more, but those are the main ones.
The fact is that women are only considered socially acceptable by being whores. This means that they have to invest a lot of time and energy into hooking the richest man they can to pay for their pussy - despite this being very difficult, time consuming, and frustrating when all deep down need is dick.
So really, there are no jerks or alphamales in my experience. Only MANWHORES (who offer women sex) and FINANCIERS (who offer women a whole pile of other shit they want like money, dinners, dates, car rides, etc. to ensure that women can fit into society)
A maxim of being a successful manwhore is that you should, at all times, NEVER offer a woman ANYTHING OTHER THAN SEX (and friendship, because she'll tire of you eventually and leave you anyhow)
The jerk UNDERSTANDS this dynamic. The nice guy does not.
Women (and people in general) will typically USE YOU for whatever you offer them freely... and what's the one thing we don't mind being used by a woman for? Our body!
Understand that being sexually direct is generally more successful than not being so.
Also note that you really have to LOVE women to be good as a PUA. A guy who does not love women will probably find lots of reasons not to approach them.
(2) Approaching.
This part of PU is totally overrated, but I see many AFCs turn into idiots because of it.
I'll get confidence out the way quickly. Simply speaking, WHATEVER YOU FEEL, at ANY PARTICULAR TIME is VALID. This means that as long as you are HONEST about what you feel, and carry that into a conversation or discussion with a group of people or women is OK. You do not have to act a certain way or worse, be something you are NOT.
If you REALLY feel great, and want to approach a woman and share that - then opening her will work.
HOWEVER...
If you feel uncomfortable, and try to act like you're having a great time, and open, your opener will NOT work because you lack the necessary congruence.
The truth is, that HONESTY TRUMPS IMPRESSIONS. You will be appear more confident "just being yourself" by being TRUE TO YOURSELF. Always act within your comfort zone. If you act outside your comfort zone, you will be less in control of yourself and appear LESS confident.
Not only that, but women don't want to see who you think you are, but base their decisions of you based on who you REALLY are - and a guy who is acting full of himself can't be trusted, and you'll get shit-tested a lot. Everyone loves to smack down the tall-poppy.
So what I'm saying is, no matter how you feel before doing any approach - learn to ACCEPT what you feel, and don't deviate out of this while you approach. Learn to accept whatever you feel - because in doing so you will appear "money" - although it may not feel like it.
Having said that - when you are going out socially to meet women, you need to be organized about it. YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE. More than money, or what you look like, you need to worry about this more than everything else. The way my game works is to maximize opportunities by wasting the minimal amount of time on prospects unlikely to produce dividends.
(3) The attract
Really, there is not much to this as I stated earlier. The only value to offer is sex, and the other traits that go along with one who has high replication value. (socially proofed by women, leader of men, able to emote, etc) The very fact that you don't care about being direct with women already counts for a lot
In many ways, women put on an act when meeting a guy. Being directly sexual cuts the crap before they start it. In many ways, one way of finding out if a woman really wants me or not is by being blunt about sex - not because I want sex (I do) but also because it forces the woman to be herself.
Also, remember that no matter how much you learn, pick-up is an art - and a roll of the dice. You will NOT be successful with all women all the time - BUT a successful PUA will always have enough women in his life to the point where he has no need for more sex or women for a while!
(4) Comfort
This part mainly deals with getting the woman to like herself. Basically, a good PUA already has (a) self-acceptace and (b) target-acceptance finalized at this point. However, some women just don't have their own self-acceptance and acceptance of you finalized. This is your goal in comfort - to help her raise her acceptance of who she is, and in turn, getting her to accept you.
Getting her to accept herself is easily done (compliments). Other women have self-esteem issues, and even though you may be a god among men, NOTHING can be more frustrating than a woman who thinks that she's not good enough for you, and there's NOTHING you can do about this after you've tried.
My advice is to throw the little ones back. Women who don't think they are good enough for you are shit in bed and aren't much fun - and they'll just try to ruin your life so they can continue to believe that they don't deserve you - by demonizing you and making your life hell, dragging you down to their level.
Getting her to accept you is a bit harder - but you have to spell it out, in no uncertain terms, that you are going to be NOTHING to her other than a source of sexual relief, and also as a friend - if she desires.
Never underestimate the power of kino and kissing to accelerate this.
(5) Facing rejection from down the barrel
When you are sexually direct, you are going to come across women who are going to refuse. What you have to understand is that rejection is not black and white.
Consider that:
In any case, most rejections I have had from women for being direct, fit into one of these categories. The key when handling reejction is to understand that SHE HAS FURTHER QUESTIONS OF YOU, and she does NOT hate you!
NEVER get angry with a woman - EVER! Do not argue with them EVER. Instead, keep calm and answer her questions.
Anger is something you must always keep in reserve so that you keep all the women in your life "in check.". By never showing it towards her, you keep her on her toes - and she'll be scared to upset you.
(6) numbers, logistics, bouncing, and dating
Many women have developed their own personalized systems for ensuring a constant stream of male attention on-tap - and in many ways, attention from men in an end in itself for many women.
As sad as this is, many women do this - so you really have to ensure that your attention is only a freebie to the main course - and that main-course is sex.
If possible, AVOID doing a number swap. Accelerate the seduction to sex as fast as possible.
If, for whatever reason, you can't take it further with the woman, then give your number away. If you haven't managed to spark enough attraction whereby she's really into you and willing to bounce with you - then getting her number may be a complete waste of time anyhow.
The thing is, however, that you do NOT get her number and call her up if you can seriously avoid it. HAVE HER CALL YOU, or better yet HAVE HER ASK FOR YOUR NUMBER.
Secondly, you are only going to call her up to invite her over to your place for eventual sex anyhow. Why not set a date to meet at your place when you are with her? You don't need her number, but when she is on the way to see you, or when she books time with you, she will need yours.
Thirdly, its a pain in the ass to clear your cell-phone out of flaking chicks numbers. If they call you to come out and see you - then maybe you should record her number - otherwise forget her.
If she calls you, she is more invested in you and willing to see you - which translates into great sex anyway.
If you have no other way BUT to call a woman, understand that all you want to do is call her to leave her your number. Do NOT use the phone for anything else.
Spotting a flake is easy because:-
On the phone, ALWAYS encourage women to call you. Turn the tables on them and get them to invest, and every time they call, keep inviting them to your evening rendezvous. Do NOT waver from your initial plan - because flakes will ALWAYS try to rearrange your schedule. DON'T LET THEM!
Remember, they want you to call to feed their own ego - and being nice to her and begging to meet her, or getting angry at her for doing this is STILL feeding her attention. So DON'T DO IT. If she wants your attention, she can do it sexually, by booking some time at your place, or NOT AT ALL.
(7) relationships.
Honestly, if you're doing all the above properly, you should have a few regular women calling you occasionally and making time to come over to your place for sex... plus a few one-off girls who come over for some quick gratification so you'll eventually have no need for a relationship.
If a woman wants a relationship - then understand that she's basically asking you for MORE than your original offer of sex. It always sucks to let women down, but you will have to tell her that you have other female friends who don't care about having a relationship with you - and that you would upset them by having a relationship with the girl asking you for one. No can do.
That's about it for now. Have fun guys.
- sexually aggressive men who are upfront and offering dick
-they don't want you to harass them after they've used you for sex. Just let them get on with their lives. They will kick you to the kerb in some form or another eventually.
-not violent or going to hurt them - or at least incredibly weak to the point of them being able to ruin your life easily if you do anything too untoward
-Either by being of high social rank (the celebrity screw) which will raise her social status, and if not, then a guy who isn't going to be in her life in any meaningful way that she can just screw and dump (pretty much the rest of us who aren't famous).
-This is the only thing that gets you great customer satisfaction and repeat service.
This is the cause of most ASD and weird behavior women have towards casual sex - and why women may marry the rich doctor, but be having sex with the drug-dealing fat ugly bum who lives on the beach during her courtship.
If you REALLY feel scared, unsure of yourself, or your surroundings - and you open the girl and are HONEST about that, your opening will STILL work.
(a) A woman can reject you because she thinks that you don't possess the necessary qualities to be her manwhore.
(b) A woman can reject you because she doesn't think that she is good enough for you!
(c) hooking up with a guy she just met is unusual for her and outside her comfort zone and outside her character, at the moment.
If you show anger - she will be feel righted in rejecting you in the first place - because it shows that you CAN'T HANDLE THE INEVITABLE REJECTION AFTER SEX that you have coming when she tires of you, her fucktoy, eventually.
For beautiful women, attention is as simple as walking down the street. For other, not so beautiful women - this may mean going out, collecting lots of guys phone numbers, and having him call her up so that she can flake endlessly - to keep him calling and so she can keep enjoying his attention.
...or maybe she will go out and meet the guy on a date, eat all the food he provides, and go home - having her attention deficit satisfied (but of course, no sex for the sucker who does this)
As I said before, in many cases, a woman gives out her number only to flake on you because your attention over the phone is all she wanted in the first place. Do NOT feed the monsters.
On that topic, DO NOT INVITE WOMEN ANYWHERE ELSE BUT YOUR PLACE! What I tend to do is say that I'm very busy, and I work out at the gym until 9:30pm every evening. If she wants to come out and see me once I finish my gym session, I'll be happy to see her - otherwise I can't change my schedule.
Dinner dates are complete WOFTAMs (waste-of-fucking-time-and-money). One or two drinks in a bar before going to your place is passable (limit your time in there to half-an-hour)... but should she really like you, she won't care and want to go straight to your pad for sex anyhow. Taking her out elsewhere just slows these women down!
After the bar, its straight to your place.
Should she back out at this point, then forget her. She only wanted free attention from you.
1. They never call you (so don't call back)
2. They try and change the place you set to meet up with them - typically a club. (tell them "no" because you are "tired" and just intended to stay at home and have a drink)
3. They call at the last minute to say that they're not coming. (Tell them that's fine, you had other things you wanted to get done tonight anyhow, and seeing her was admittedly going to be a distraction from that)
