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The terms we use on this board were either
invented outright or adopted from other social
or anthropological sciences. People who clamor
for scientific backup for MASF terms are
missing the point: What makes our terminology
and our methodology valid is one thing only:
FIELD TESTED
When I say we have the best social scientists
in the entire world it is for that reason
alone. It's not academia, or wikipedia, or
some masturbating chode in an ivory tower
with his walls lined with accolades from
other pasty masturbaters. No, it's the FIELD
EXPERIENCE. What gets real men laid with real
women in real time, and consistently over
time. THAT'S data that's REALLY USEFUL.
There has been so much angst over whether we
all "understand" what is "alpha" or not,
whether it's a "scientific" understanding,
and whether we even need to understand it. I
am proposing a definition here that we can
put into the wiki if it doesn't generate
another shit storm of nail-biting angst
amongst our solid KJ community here of
virgins and near virgins.
If you are among those who don't believe that
the term "alpha" should ever even be uttered
among PUAs, due to some unknown, mysterious
harm that will come to you, then please skip
this post.
ALPHA: THE dominant one, or merely, A
dominant one. "Dominance" to mean dominance
over one's SELF and/or one's environment.
Very similar to LEADER. You can be THE leader
or be A leader.
People who get hung up on academia's
definitions will note the semantics: if I say
LEADER, you think that the person is THE
leader. But as we all know, groups morph and
overlap and there can be more than one
LEADER in certain circumstances. More
importantly, when we talk about LEADERSHIP,
we are not usually talking about getting
every last chode on the planet to submit to
us, but rather, we are talking about the
QUALITIES of leadership, which are always
useful and good for any man to cultivate, PUA
or not.
Therefore, just as LEADER or LEADERSHIP can
be both absolutes and relative terms, so can
the term "alpha".
Therefore, "Alpha" should also refer to "the
qualities that an alpha male» might posess".
There are numerous studies that show that
being the leader/dominant one/alpha in our
society has very little to do with being
PHYSICALLY dominant, since a long long time
ago in our history. Alpha traits in humans
are much more complex than in animals because
we have complex alliance-forming abilities
that most animals do not. Close primates DO
form alliances, but they don't have houses of
congress and such complex systems as we do.
As I said, when I see "alpha" I also
consider domination over one's own thoughts
and emotions and body to be crucial. ALL the
great military and history and political
science writers recognized that to be a
leader of men, one must first dominate
one's self. This point is especially crucial
for the PUA. How does this apply in field?
A woman will sleep with a man even if he
doesn't show leadership over other men. But,
showing he has POTENTIAL is significant to
the woman's subconscious. Let's explore this
a bit.
I think we can all agree that Social Proof is
a great tool in the PUA arsenal. No doubt
some chode will argue with me about the
dearth of "scientific" literature backing up
my point that women like a man with Social
Proof. BORING. Social Proof WORKS. But what
if one likes to do Gunwitch style, lone wolf,
daytime game. How is Social Proof relevant
then?
Simple. When you approach a woman, you act
AS IF you are a man who gets lots of women.
You talk to her AS IF she is completely safe
with you, that there is nothing at all
unusual about what you are doing. You MIGHT,
via storytelling, imply these things. But I
always viewed memorized routines as training
wheels. You can simply use touch and eye
contact in the same way. By simply acting
normal, like you've done this many times
before, you are implying the social proof.
You imply that other women have accepted you
and felt safe with you before. The look on
your face – conveyed by the THOUGHTS you hold
in your mind, can subcommunicate social
proof.
Testing Tests will come, whether
deliberately or unconsciously or
surreptitiously. I am talking to a woman in
the lineup at Starbucks. Suddenly, mid-
sentence, my triple mocha latte quadruple
espresso frappucino extra light appears with
the barista. How do I react to the
interruption? What if the barista is sexually
attractive to me? Think on this: HOW DO I
REACT? The targets mind is picking ALL of
this up subconsciously.
Imagine now a big burly guy "accidentally"
bumps into me? Those that think it's
pointless to worry about being "alpha" won't
have a fucking clue what to do here. Maybe I
apologize and get out of his way? After all,
the woman doesn't care, right? WRONG! You
will lose attraction points if you handle
this badly. You will GAIN attraction points
if you handle this with grace. Remember, the
alpha in our society is not usually the guy
who can smash the face of the intruder.
HOWEVER, he IS the guy who is not AFRAID of
the intruder... because of the following
reasons:
- he can recognize a real threat vs. a lonely
chode trying to stir up trouble. The former
calls for action and the latter is kinda
cute. The alpha knows the difference.
- he knows how to lead and care for men and
women, such that in a REAL emergency, he can
have the intruder dealt with pronto.
Guys, make no mistake, if you are successful
with women, then it's axiomatic you will also
experience the following:
- Women will compete for your attention. An
alpha will know how to use that competition
to his advantage
- Men WILL get jealous. You DO stand out if
you are cold approaching. This is something
over 90% of men NEVER do when sober. You may
almost NEVER get attacked, verbally or
otherwise, but a woman concerned for her
safety will always have in the back of her
head the "what if". If you're uncertain, or
think that being able to handle other men is
totally irrelevant, then she WILL pick up on
that and you'll lose comfort points.
More to come!