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So... how many of you have had oneitis?
Thought so.
What is oneitis? Ok, we all know what it is. We may have various specific definitions as to what it is, but they're basically the same.
Its "this one girl" for all intensive purposes.
Well, what the hell is "this one girl"?
Its some stupid little jedi mind trick that YOU put on yourself.
I've seen guys have oneitis with all kinds of various girls that do all kinds of various things. Some get it over girls who've slept with them. Some get it over girls who WONT sleep with them. Some get it with girls who show them a lot of interest. Some get it when girls show very little interest. Some when girls are dating multiple guys(including him) and some when girls are dating absolutely no one.
Whats the common thread?
IT IS THAT GUYS PERCEPTION ONLY.
It has nothing to do with "her".
Ok, but what happens when that doesn't work?
Well, obviously, GFTOW isn't THE answer.
Even if that nets you the skills to answer your own questions of how to GET the girl, will you have what it takes to KEEP her?
I'm not the only person who's seen someone LOSE a girl because of oneitis. That implies that he HAD her. So if having her isn't THE answer, and GFTOW isn't THE answer, whats the answer?
The experience garnered from meeting other women and the perspective gained from that, and learning the skills to get ten other women which will make it easier to get the "one", are just pieces of the answer. They're just part of the steps you take to get THE answer.
THE answer is so simple that I see guys give it from time to time without even knowing it. Its even funnier that its hardly ever given in response to guys with oneitis. Its overlooked all the time. I've known the answer for years now and I overlook the answer myself ALL THE TIME.
Simply, change your perception.
Change your perception or never allow yourself to be put in a position where you can trick yourself.
So I exaggerate when I say ten. The number is irrelevant. The principle is to ALWAYS invest the same amount of emotional attachment or desire to more than one woman, or to no woman at all.
If you really want to sleep with one woman, then always have at least one other woman you want to sleep with just as much. If you don't have one, then put your energy into finding one.
If you feel you really like a girl to a certain degree, ALWAYS have at least one other woman that you like just as much. If you don't then put your effort into finding one.
If you really want a relationship with a girl, then ALWAYS have at least one other girl that you're in a relationship with. If you don't, then go find one before you get into a relationship with that one.
The principle applies to nearly any situation you can think of.
You can NEVER have oneitis if you ALWAYS have the same amount of energy and attachment invested in other girls.
If one girl leaves, or ljbfs you, or whatever, you will ALWAYS have perspective because you will always have another girl that you have just as much interest in.
If you only have one girl, then you are ALWAYS looking for another one. And if you are always looking for another, the more you will come to realize there will ALWAYS be other girls for whom you can feel the exact same level of emotion and want to invest the same level of energy.
The only way that you can believe that there will never be more women, and the only way that you can have oneitis, is if YOU CHOOSE to stop meeting other women and wanting other women.
You can CHOOSE oneitis.
If you could choose to never have oneitis and always have other girls, and actually learn the skills to always have girls in the process, why would you CHOOSE oneitis?
Thats really simple too. You decide that she's worth having oneitis for. You choose to perceive her that way.
You stop meeting other women and settle down with her. Hopefully, you have enough insight and experience to more accurately judge her true worth to you than the average person who settles down and gets oneitis for the first person that will have him.
So you don't want oneitis? ALWAYS be looking for girls to invest the same amount of emotion in.
Never want to get oneitis again? Always Have Ten Other Women to invest the same amount of emotion in.
The common remedy for oneitis is GFTOW, be it find or anything else. And for the most part, this will help to gain enough perspective to take "that one girl" off her pedestal in that guys mind...
The principle: ALWAYS have ten other women/there are ALWAYS ten other women.
Never again should the answer to oneitis be GFTOW. The response should be, "Do you feel the same way about any other girl? If not, then are you looking for any other girls? If not, why? Then lets address that... AHTOW."
