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You hear many stories of guys who work at this shit for some time, going out and eventually making it, getting the sex life of their dreams. And of course there are many who discover this shit then try some shit and drop out after a few months. Then there are many, that people don't really hear or talk about, who are at it for years and improve slowly, at best, and never really make it. I know MANY people in this category.
I've been active in the community for almost 3 years. About 1.5 was in college where I was doing mostly social circle stuff, so in terms of mass cold approaching, I've been at it for about 1.5 years. And I'm beginning to fear I'll be in that latter category. I am so far away from my goal of bedding a hottie every week and I feel like I'm not moving closer. My success rate has been stuck at a 6, maybe 7, maybe 5 every two months for the longest time. I see little improvement of my skills in the field. The consistent story of open (and sometimes get blown out) then failing at attracting them and them walking away within a couple minutes happens every night over and over again. I've been in california for a year, and I haven't fucked a hot cali blonde party chick yet..wtf!
I certainly know of some things that held me back. I was kind of too lazy and stubborn to use routine stacks for a little while, just winging it and using a technique here and there for months with little improvement (though I noticed some degree of better wit after taking improv classes). I have a pretty shitty intuition of when to start kino in set. I give myself half-assed missions in general and don't really go balls out and try what I mean to try that night.
I'm now realizing that the old adage of "get yourself in the field and you'll just improve and figure it out eventually anyway. the materials will just help a bit" as completely bullshit. If I don't want to fall in that category and just fuck a mildly cute girl every once in a while, I really have to step up. I go out consistently and open 10+ sets, but that's not enough. I've got to give myself specific things I have to do no matter what and follow that.
I've had to rearrange my long term goals, basically make everything take longer than I thought it would. I plan to so far try to get my attraction game better, using a stack written for me and writing up stacks with various techniques and working them for the rest of 2008. In the beginning of 2009 I want to move to a more C/F-based game, in general build my verbal attraction once and for all. Second half of 2009 I'll hammer out subcoms, my voice, bodylanguage, sexual state, etc. Although I'm also thinking to work both at a time, though, work on the nonverbal stuff as well as make myself really hammer out the verbals tight. I don't know. I'll do whatever (whatever works, that is), I really have got to improve faster, or..I'll never make it, never fuck hotties in the back of my car a couple hours after meeting them, never have those 3somes eventually, etc.
Of all the literature about how to be a PUA, all the things that work, there's very little on how to make it, how to actually get from where you are to getting there. I'm still light years ahead of where I started at, but I've felt myself plateauing and really have got to step it up...somehow. For advice, I could use specific missions, things for me to do no matter what, things that will help me build my game quick.
