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Zardoz wrote:
"Escalation: I’ve heard this from a few senior guys on the board. Let escalation create attraction. Take the next step, push the limit of the interaction. This is not for newbies. My problem was I was trying to “get” her into me. So if I escalated it would bomb. But once you learn state control, escalation becomes natural.
Hi Zardoz,
A quick question. I understand the concepts of letting the girl choose you but how do you marry this with escalation?
Isn`t physical escalation (I am assuming it`s what you mean here) ultimately communicate sexual interest? i.e makes you chase so to speak? So how do you chase without chasing kinda?
Thanks!!
Good question. In my experience, it's all about being "in state" which is a concept I haven't heard anybody articulate well until Tyler Durden in The Blueprint.
I consider escalation anything that pushes the interaction forward, like a compliment, a hug, a tease, "asking" for a number, etc. But you escalate because you want to, not because you feel you should.
So when you're in state--and if you want to learn how to get in state let me know--you are super social, perfectly calibrated, radiating a positive vibe, and everything sticks. What happens is women will start to ioi you. Like they'll hang out in your proximity, bump into you, give eye contact, hit you , etc. So that makes things really easy because you can then size them up and decide whether or not you want them.
This might not happen until after you've opened with a cold approach.
It seems like you are choosing them. But on a very subtle level...very subtle, they INVITED you to escalate. Once you are getting these reactions, all reactions to your interaction become escalation.
Now say you open a girl and you're in state, calm, not being really funny or anything, just very relaxed and cool. The girls will accept and maybe even appreciate your company. So she hasn't chosen you. The thing is, here is something key
THERE ARE NO RULES
These philosophies are ever changing with experience. This is just my recent experience. That's why no one pu method is legit...it's like water.
So if you want to create attraction in a girl that isn't into you, you CAN resort to tactics like social proof, jealousy plotlines, funny routines.
But this is where I was stuck for a long time. No attraction. Just a cool vibe. Here are some examples of using escalation to create attraction. Assume you are talking to a woman that doesn't appear interested nor disinterested.
"You're cute."
So you ask her to do something. Get her to comply. That's an aspect of escalation...but very subtle. It's all about "taking risks." Risk takers are attractive.
Then you can take big risks, physical risks. Physical escalation works big time.
The other night these girls were taking pictures, so I jumped into the shot. They laughed. Then I said "Take our picture." I grabbed the hot one and picked her up into my arms. She squeeled. Girls love this.
Warning to newbies though. If you do this with any doubt in your mind, it may back fire
So when you escalate, you aren't really chasing, you are escalating. Her accepting your presence, and allowing you to dominate the interaction without blowing you out means she chose you.
Here's an excerpt from a post I wrote. A guy from my lair asked a question.
Let the girls choose you. This is a funny phenomenon. You can open the interaction, you can plow, but in the end the girl must choose you. The best way to achieve this result is to not want anything from anybody. It’s your job to escalate, not chase"
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"What's your number."
"Come outside for a smoke." (If you smoke)
"Come play pool."
"I like your energy."
