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Mostly, I talked about how manipulative people have a subtle way of opposing you to see how you react to them.
Recently, I got to reading an awesome book called "In Sheep's Clothing" by George K. Simon.
Basically, a lot of what I said in my original post on this topic was strictly from my own experience. I didn't have names for the types of behaviors I was describing, I was only telling stories about my encounters with manipulative people.
Only a few chapters into this book and I was grinning ear to ear - this guy really hits the nail on the head!
He has names for all the types of behaviors, so it helps you identify the shit as it gets flung at you (in a subtle way though, lol).
I strongly recommend that everyone take a glance at this book, it is very helpful in dealing with women, and dealing with people at work, like your boss.
A few takeaways that I've come across so far:
Manipulative people have covert-aggressive personalities, as opposed to people with overt-aggressive personalities. While overtly aggressive people don't conceal their determination, a covertly aggressive person does. They are hypnotic.
Manipulative people are often those with very high ambitions which are concealed. They have a way of keeping you in the dark about where you stand with them, and they get you to second-guess yourself for unknown reasons.
You get a gut feeling that something isn't right in your interaction with this person, but because you can't point to obvious evidence that this person is using you for something, you don't know it. Unconsciously, you know that you are being played, but you can't handle it with them consciously.
Recently, I encountered some covert-aggressive behavior with my boss over a missed deadline. Truth is, I was called out of the office for half a day to cover for a girl who had to "leave work early" (no questions asked, surprise, surprise...) so that's why that shit didn't get done.
So my boss pulls a subtle threat, saying something along the lines of, "You do want to deal more directly with clients, don't you?" and "you want to grow, right?"
This set off a gut feeling in me where I unconsciously panicked, and began to doubt myself and have second thoughts about my own job performance.
After reading this book, I can clearly see how I played into my boss' invitation to make me feel ashamed of myself - a covertly aggressive ploy to keep me in the bitch position.
A lot of info in this book can be applied to situations with women, of course, because women have a stack of manipulative tricks for you.
This book will truly help you spot the stingray in the sand, and give you some non-bullshit strategies to take the power back and stay grounded.
One of the best things in this book by far is this:
When someone throws a subtle insult or sarcastic comment to you, just say, "Can you repeat that?" They almost NEVER will.
Pure gold!
A few months ago, I wrote a post about dealing with manipulative people.
