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Often when in front of a woman that guys find VERY attractive, they lose their cool. It happens to me as well, sometimes the strong physical attraction causes some crazy release of hormones and chemicals in your body and it upsets your whole balance. I suppose the same sort of thing happens to AFC's with less attractive girls.
The technique I use on the occasion that I need to combat this, is that I simply imagine myself as the HB's bigger brother. Those that have younger sisters can probably relate well to this.
If you just think this way, you will do a lot right.
1) It puts you in a frame where you are not only caring, sweet, and protective of her at the right time, but you are also going to neg and DQ quite naturaly. Neg'ing her is no longer forced. If your sister does something dumb, you tease her. You laugh at her, yet it is a laugh encompassed with love. She feels the neg and feels your smile, all at the same time. This sort of neg is delivered perfectly, it is like art. If you neg like this and your heart REALLY is full of love, it has a strong effect. It is very different than a neg delivered because you think you are a PUA and you should do a neg now. She will see warmth in your eyes.
2) Because you have DQ'ed yourself from her both outwardly and inwardly, it will do a world to reduce your anxiety level and help you be calm. It also puts her guard down.
3) When you look at the HB as I do when I look at my little sister, the minute effects this has on your BL are incredible. The girl and all around her feel it.
4) Kino is performed flawlessly. It is from a place of comfort, not forced or with questionable timing. It is a DQ'ed kino, not an "I am attracted to you and I am touching you" kino. Remember the main point in kino is comfort, it is not sexual.
5) I often make my little sister laugh. She tells me no one makes her laugh like I do. Genuine humor comes through from this state of mind without so much reservation of "will this be funny?"... "will this work?". It will work because your delivery is comfortable. Even if no one finds the subject that funny, they will laugh at your genuine laugh. Just like your sister laughs because she feels how funny it is to you.
6) If you think about it, women want many of the same qualities as a guy has in a loving relationship with his smaller sister. With one difference, they also want you to be attracted to her. That attraction, she will WORK FOR. Just as you are blind to physical attraction for your sister (at least I hope), your "missing" physical attraction for the HB will make her want it, badly. Your not wanting her is a DHV.
7) This allows some natural dominance to come through. It portrays you as alpha, but in a more natural caring way. After all, your little sister looks up to you. In between 10 AMOGs your little sister will still think you are the alpha. This frame of mind will help you stay solid. Remember... the HB is your little sis, she sees you as alpha. Just be that guy for her.
Let me add a warning (although this is very basic). This technique requires some timing on your part. If you introduce this too early and start slapping her upside the head before she even knows you, You will piss her off. If you keep this going too long, its a great way to solidly land yourself in LJBF.
This technique is only there to help you in a transition, to help you calm down, and to show a solid disqualification to the girl. You have to at some point escalate beyond this. But employed at the right time, it works wonders.
I wanted to make a quick post on something that has always worked well for me. It is very simple, but very effective.
