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I totally agree that you should have other things that are important to you, and get you out of your head. It's important to have a balanced and interesting life
This is especially important for guys who are OBSESSED with studying this stuff, but don't get laid.
But then again hey if you love this stuff, and love women and ARE getting laid then it's fine to put this in the forefront of what you do.
I also don't think you should 'give up' at meeting and attracting women and start putting ALL your time into something else.
I also just like to go out and meet people (I used to not be like this, but after having some success it becomes fun).
At the same time I also have lots of other things I do for fun, from hanging out with friends, to reading, basketball, to poker, to traveling, movies, music, TV, etc.
I believe that you have to have a balanced life, but man... I love going out and picking up women.
Having one night stands is one of my favorite things to do, and hey if I'm good at it, why not? (Even nights where I go out and just get rejected a lot I have fun...)
I feel like a lot of guys who do pick up for a while then quit and say they have other things to do just never got good at it.
If every guy was as good as meeting women as me they would probably become obsessed with it.
Trust me, when you have real success it does not get old...
There are always hotter women, and cool women with interesting lives.
I'm constantly pushing myself to get better, while having fun along the way.
I say, if you're doing the same old shit, not getting laid... then push yourself and CHANGE what your doing.
It's like the old adage, "If what you're doing aint working then change it up"
Let's say you've been memorizing routine stacks for over a year and you still don't get women...
Well then I say go all out and try being very direct with women. Tell women straight up that you think they're beautiful.
Don't fear it, just DO IT and see what happens.
Try getting rejected for a month, it can be fun and you can learn a lot from it... I'm serious.
A lot of guys let their egos get in the way and will do anything from be very indirect and cold or act completely gay so they can avoid getting 'blown out'.
Try being direct...
Or if you are being too aggressive and scaring women away, try being a little more indirect. Some guys just scare women away because they seem too 'playerish'.
Anyways it's all about changing things up until you find your own way.
Don't be afraid of change, especially if you're not getting success (and by success I mean meeting, attracting, and actually having sex with women. A lot of guys in think that if they 'entertain' women, they have succeeded. They get caught up with this and become good at 'flash' game, but have few lays under their belts)
Back to having "better things to do"...
One of my buds who I used to wing with a lot now plays video games all the time.
He said that he likes having "other things he likes to do besides meeting hot women"... So now, instead of meeting women he plays video games 20+ hours a week.
I called him last Saturday to see if he wanted to go out. He said that he was really tired because he spent all of Friday night playing xbox... about 8 hours straight...
While he was playing X Box Friday, I went out, met a bunch of girls, and made out with an awesome chick who I already have a date with this wk.
As much as you love to do 'other things', I'm sorry but if that much time was spent on women you would be getting laid (provided that you're PUSHING yourself, changing up your game, and doing the right things)
Same thing goes for watching television.
Think about it and do the math. If you're watching 3 hours of TV a day, that's 21 hours per week...
I say spend that time going out and meeting women!
If you have time to watch 21 hours of TV you have time to go out 2-3 times a week and meet some people.
It's OK to watch TV, chill, and play video games, but if you're not having sex then for god sake have a life too! If you don't then work on it and work on it HARD.
You have nothing to lose (especialy if you're already not having sex)
Your video games and the TV will still be there...
Make pick up something you enjoy and you WILL succeed.
Good luck...
So the other day I heard a friend of mine was referring to an old 'community' saying that, "You have to have things to do that are more important to you then 'pick up'."
For me I love women and I do put this stuff first in my life because I find it fun and rewarding... yes i love having sex with women and lots of them haha.
