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What got me to where I am:
1) Without any good or constant male role models in my life, I used to watch movies as a kid and idolize guys like Clint Eastwood, Errol Flynn, Cary Grant, and Robert Mitchum. I grew up being the kind of kid who sought out adventure and didn’t back away from challenges. I had free reign to stay out as late as I wanted, and never had anybody telling me not to do something because I might “get hurt.” Since I didn’t see any repercussions in stepping up, I became a natural leader in sports, social groups, and the military.
2) I embrace things in life that are inherently masculine: contact sports, military, physical labor, fighting, weapons, drinking, independence, danger/risk, helping others who are less fortunate/strong, etc. I would much rather see a guy who wants to get in shape do squats, deadlifts, and put a heavy barbell over his head than go do yoga or pilates. But I am all for banging a female yoga/pilates instructor. Just don’t think you need to join their classes. I am able to balance my masculine side with my love for music, writing, dressing well, good food, etc.
3) My strong sex drive comes from my high testosterone and love of female beauty and body. When I see a woman I am attracted to, I think my desire to fuck her, is stronger than the average guy so it comes to fruition more often. The strong sex drive also lends itself to better sex with the woman because I instinctively satisfy myself and her. I think some guys would rather strategize and figure a woman out and just go by their masculine instincts. Yes, I have probably been more bold at times but it has served me better than it has hindered me.
4) Love for being with women. I never really spent much time trying to “figure women out.” I didn’t have a Mom growing up so I never had that coddling that guys need to get away from to be more of a man. I had female friends from a young age up until the present time. So I feel as though I always “knew” them and appreciated their differences to me. I tried to understand them when they “freaked out” about something rather than deride or dismiss them. I know that I am a strong male. Dealing with a little female drama is a small price to pay for the overwhelming great stuff they bring to the table, and in no way can overshadow or change my masculinity. Ain’t gonna happen.
5) Knowing how to have fun and make a woman laugh. Women love to be with a guy who knows how to relax, be laid back, not let little things bother him, be a little sarcastic, banter with her to lighten the mood, flirt with her (and sometimes other women) to bring that excitement. Also, take charge in doing things outside of your house, like sports, travel, nightlife, social gatherings, spontaneous adventure, helping others, etc. Recently, I took my GF to a out of town Habitats for Humanity event. It was so rewarding and so much fun. We met a bunch of new friends that we plan to see later this year. It beats the hell out of renting a movie and laying o the couch.
There’s more but let’s hear from you guys. MY GF is out of town visiting her parents. I have a cold and feel like shit so it’s just me and the computer/tv for today and tomorrow before I hit the road traveling next week. Holler at me, y’all…
(not proofreading any of this shit so try to decipher it on your own…hehe)
~Lifeguard~
This is based on my experience and I give reasons why or why not. This is not an attack on styles. If you have a different opinion, please share it. Don’t mention why it worked for some PUA/guru. Speak from your own experience.
