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What A Man method is and isn't:
* It's just some things I've broken down from how I live my life and what works for me.
* It helps me meet beautiful women without a lot of effort or time expended on my part.
* It is something that helps me consistently get the highest numbers of meeting attractive women, for the amount of approaches I do (which is very little).
* It is not a massively field tested method - you can help w/that ... if you try it out write a field report.
* It recruits a lot of people in introducing me to beautiful women, without me doing much once I set things in motion.
* It errs on the side of being smooth in order to maximize the chance of getting her on a date, where you can escalate and begin a sexual relationship.
OK A Man method for picking up chicks involved hardly any pickup. Really this only got a pickup component after I incorporated pickup into it in the last couple months. For the pickup I use the tools that in my own experience give you the best chance of getting a date with the girl. Like I said this has only been field tested by me and my friends.
How to pick up chicks using the A Man method:
STRUCTURE FOR SINGLE GIRL:
1) Open using something that puts the person at ease with the idea of talking to you for the next 2 minutes. Depending on where you are, the opener will be different. It could be a gimmick or a request like "I hate eating alone, may I join you?" or "I just finished my drink and thought I'd say hi." In any case, the people should not be weirded out but in fact welcome you socially and be ok with you talking to them for 2 mins.
Body language» should be normal social body language». For greatest effect, when you start talking you can lean in slightly too far, to get their attention, and as you finish talking you can rock out slightly and come back to neutral position.
2) Now you assume some great things about them. e.g. "Are you in a band?... You have the look." Or "Are you headed to a party? You look awesome." When they say no you start asking the questions, like "oh? Where you headed". Or "oh? What do you do?" so it seems more natural than just asking questions right away. Now you reveal things about yourself and start connecting. There's a million different styles for this.
3) Get the girl to become OK with the idea of you and her together, by finding out commonalities and so forth. Get her attracted by any of the methods I spoke about in "attraction explained", such as intrigue, or value. Then you have enough compliance to lead her to do something spontaneous. It can be anything from taking her out of her way to an instant-date, to something small like exchanging stuff you've never told anyone else, to a makeout. Whatever it is, it's an emotional spike. Otherwise there is a chance she wont remember you very well.
4) Then make her feel good about this emotional spike and talk on some other topic so she feels the butterflies meanwhile. A minute afterwards, tell her why you'd like to see her again, e.g. "it's not every day I meet a who ______". Start getting out of there so you don't mar the great impression you have created.
5) Tell her to give your #. Give them phone in a way that they will take it and it should be ready to accept their #. You can put in their name later. If you forgot what it was, you can ask them to spell it. Tell her to put your # in so she knows who's calling. If she puts up any resistance, assume it's token resistance and coquetry and just defuse with humor. Like "send me an email" or "give me your #" are easy to poke fun of. Then ask again. You can tell her what you'll do with the #, such as text her (not call) if she has a bf, and invite her to X or Y.
6) If you want, you can skip asking them to spell their name, and your first text can be "Fun meeting you. It's Britney, right?" she may reply "Yeah, Brittany." So now, you know she has your # too.
The only objection I can think of that holds any weight is the boyfriend objection. She is seeing someone. In that case steer the convo into being friends / inviting her to social events, and put her on a social track. This is actually extremely good and getting back to my original lifestyle... girls with BFs are like the goose with the golden egg, you dont want to lay her, yet.
OK now you have her #
7) Call her or text her, your choice. I am sure there are lots of structures for phone game. This is the one I seem to use but I am not convinced it is optimal, just comfortable:
8) Remind her of who you are, by using some callback humor etc. Get her in a good state similar to how she met you.
9) Tell her what you are doing right now, using a rich description. Ask her what she is doing. Now it's like you guys are there together.
10) Ask her how she's feeling.
11) If she is on the social track, sell her on a social party you are organizing. She may suggest to meet up one-on-one, and you take her up on it. ("you drive a hard bargain "). If she is on girlfriend track, tell her your plans for the week and ask her what she's doing. She likely won't list the whole week. Then you use this info and suggest a meet for something interesting during the week. It can be coffee + something mysterious but fun. You will have avoided bad spots in her schedule, and if you did everything right when you met her, she will meet up with you.
On the date:
12) The venue is your friend. You are the man and you choose the venue. I think this is one the main reasons dates go bad - not the only reason but a huge one. Women act according to the venue. One of my fastest escalating dates has been on the beach. Great place to have a first date during the summer. You start out lying naked next to each other and then release sexual tension by going into the water. Except soon it becomes even more sexual And it's totally comfortable. Contrast that with trying to do same shit in a restaurant. So really escalation is about going to the correct venues. If you want to get physical, plan some kind of sports date. See the show blind date for ideas.
I write much more about this in "Eskalation - I dig it" post. All the way up to sex. I think if done properly there should almost never be any LMR, because everything feels so right.
OK so that's the structure from meet to lay. OF COURSE you should have your own personality, these are merely guidelines for what to do that seemed to give me and my friends the most consistent results, after experimenting.
OK but the A Man lifestyle is hardly about approaching lone wolves and doing cold pickups all the time. This is just the most recent thing, and it's actually VERY useful for your confidence in general. I mean wow, pickup skills really widened my horizons so far, and I am not a master pick up artist.
So lets use the social dynamics things that I really wanted to talk about before I joined this board, and improve our chances with other situations besides lone wolf cold approach pickups.
COLD APPROACHING GROUPS:
Here, two concepts are king. One is the concept of deferring. If you are talking to one person in the group and start suddenly to talk to the whole group besides this person, the person will get stuck in waiting mode, and when you give them your attention again they will be much more appreciative of it. That's what I call deferring a person to the group.
But you can also defer an entire group, to a person (or a subgroup)! For example lets say there is a girl in a group of 10 people. You first approach someone in the group that is the easiest to approach, and use a similar thing to the above openers, to get them interested. The group has noticed you're speaking to this person but won't butt in because they don't know what the deal is, so they let you be. Then you ask this person to introduce you to the group, resolving the deferral. Then you can keep alternatively deferring the person or the group, to have everyone liking you, and THEN you meet the girl in the group (unless she was the first person you opened).
It's starting to sound a bit complicated, I think I need a whole different post on this.
But you can only defer someone for more than a minute, who can otherwise occupy themselves. If you approach a "two set" and alienate someone for more than a minute, it will backfire. So it's good to have a wingman and make sure you never leave people deferred for more than a minute who would get restless, because it's a ticking time bomb.
GROUPS OF ALL WOMEN:
Women come to a club looking for fun. They can openly admit to this and chase it right away when it is presented, more than they can chase dick right away when it is presented. Therefore my club approach has traditionally been to come into the club, have one guy take sit down and chat up people in some area, the rest split up and invite girls to our "Party". It's the post I have on "self-fulfilling prophecy". This bypasses the whole "I'm hitting on you" program where a lot of girls get into adversarial mode at first, and it gets into "I'm inviting you, the girls who dressed up and look GREAT, to our group and to meet other cool people tonight!" in which everyone wins. Totally different dynamics and again needs its own post.
SOCIAL CIRCLE GAME
OK so like, this is the core of my "method", but this post is way too long so I'm not even gonna talk about it, beyond saying that it's always about engineering warm approaches, and making other people work FOR YOU to introduce you. Make no secret that you are looking for exactly what you want -- in my case tall beautiful women. Make everyone feel good to be around you, and feel great introducing you to exactly what you are looking for. Have a good reputation. etc. If girls know you are a good fuck, that will help
So here is laid out kind of the main skeleton of what I seem to do. Anyway, bring it on. I'm curious about your opinions.
I have a big ego and I am going to release the A Man method for meeting very attractive women without much effort. And I dont want to be a guru or charge for an ebook. I am just doing this to share my method with y'all, get haters to bash it, and help people who are fed up with being frustrated. Should be interesting.
