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A lot of it comes from my experiences early in the year, while some are frames and mindsets that have kept me going in the nearly 7 years since I joined.
ONE thing garanteed: I'll be with one person my whole life: myself.
Thus gotta be able to live with myself, in everything I do, and love what I do and be ready to deal with the consequences of what I do.. Else, I'll hate myself. And that's the worst thing I can ever do. Can't remember who once told me "you have to be your own best friend".
"Love thyself", who said that?
PROBLEMS?
Don't try to figure out why I'm broken. This'll keep me focused on what's broken about me. Rather discover how I can get what I want.
Limtis vs possibilities. Gotta play the cards I'm dealt, not whine about the cards I got or wish I had.
INERTIA
Spent months analyzing internally and un####ing myself up. Inertia, lots of it in myself, makes me do what I do rather than do what I want to do.
Bring notepad with me at all times: allows me to record my thoughts and feelings in the moment when it happens, rather than try to remember them later. Memory censors, probably makes me feel better about myself. Recorded thoughts can't lie, leads to better analysis.
When I notice inertia: STOP myself. WILL myself to stop. Then walk towards my target. This interrupts inertia and creates...
... Nervousness. No matter. SMALL WILLS are there to help me over that if I need it. Often the excitement (I'm not nervous, I'm excited!) takes over.
Also see http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/search.cgi?action=retrieve&grp=3&mn=1181149900406027
LEARNING
How I started out, been realizing lately. I read a lot. Guide, archives, FAQ, Mystery's tips, Gunwitch method»» (was just released at that time!), Maniac High». Got a SENSE of what game was, how the conditionings of women and why things are as they are. Reviewed my past under these new understandings, lots of things made way more sense.
When going out, that SENSE was my base guideline. Supporting me through and beyond techniques. Took a few things out at a time only to try to practise them.
Either my SENSE was confirmed or not, and I'd go back and learn some more. Cycle.
Everyone, EVERYONE wears masks, socially. Different masks for different scenes or friends or situations.
Heck, who wants women to approach or take the first step anyway? Imagine if they did, it's us men who would be locked in ####ed up ASD conditionings about #### and relationships, reading Cosmo, etc, while women learn PU methods to pick us up.
Better for me to approach. Only thing I can reliably do and am not looked down upon for doing. Attracted to chick? I CAN APPROACH. Rejection? Oh well, I can approach another one.
Meanwhile she is reduced to WAITING for someone to have the balls to approach her - even while she has to maintain her social status and masks of being a strong liberated woman who doesn't need men. Makes her intimidating especially if hot chick, which means...
... How many men really have the balls to approach her, beyond a "hi" or "hey baby wanna ####?", how many really go in there calmly and take charge? That turns her on, too...
Therefore, better for me that I'm the one who needs to take the first steps. Despite appearances, women need ME.
OPPORTUNITIES
There are no "perfect opportunities". I open my eyes and see "perfect opportunities" all the time. If I miss one, not a big deal, no need to kick myself in the butt. Bit of frustration if I don't act is good as it pushes me to do better or go for it next time, but kicking myself about missing a "rare" opportunity just closes me off to more of them.
These are things I wish to expand on later on, I guess in 2009 (especially the part about inertia), just figure I'm gonna post a teaser now as I've been procrastinating a lot on writing about this. Then again I've been sick a lot so haven't gotten as much fieldwork as I desired, meh, #### happens sometimes.
MYSELF
SOCIAL MASKS
