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It was really hard for me to quit looking at it, and force myself to go for real women because I was so damn used to just popping on the computer and looking at the whatever the fuck I wanted. I got to see the hottest girls doing it all....on a fucking computer screen. Everytime I tried to quit, I eventually failed because I wasn't getting sex.
The REAL problem was that I really didn't DESIRE sex. I desired what I was used to. I had conditioned myself to having a sex life that involved look at computer porn, and forcing myself to stop looking at it was extremely difficult. It's hard to put into words, but I know it's a common thing.
Then....the greatest thing happened to me, I got a terrible virus that no anti-virus program could fix. I had to reformat my whole hard-drive, and it was this biggest pain in the balls ever. I never want to deal with that shit again, and everyone knows that porn is the biggest cause of all the nastiest viruses.
Now, it's been like over a month or something, and I have absolutely no desire to look at porn anymore simply because I don't want to ever have to deal with that shit again.
A really funny thing happened to me though....I wasn't getting my fix. Yes, it's an addiction. But instead of craving porn, I started craving real pussy instead....Like, REALLY badly. I got a little taste of some new pussy finally (which I can attribute to this strong urge I'm talking about), and it was fucking GOOD. I want more. I have the DRIVE now....I keep thinking about how good that new pussy was, and I want more. I have 2 girls that I can fuck now at a simple phone call!!
That's just as easy as turning on my computer, and looking at porn...only 1000x better. I want many girls that I can fuck with a simple phone call. I'm now driven to do that. I'm not "sarging" because I'm supposed to have a girlfriend like a lot of my friends do, and I thought that's what I wanted. I want to fuck...Plain and simple. I want to wake up, and have a nice wet pussy to stick my dick in.
That drive is necessary. Well it is to me at least. I could sarge all day everyday if I wanted to, but without the drive to actually want it, I simply just didn't try hard enough.
I had forced persistance because I thought that's what I needed to do. I wasn't being persistent because of my really being horny for the girl. I was only being persistant because that's the advice I was given on mASF. "Be persistant". Persistance is a lot stronger when the drive is there.
It's not an ego thing either, like "Ya, I did good with that girl. I pushed that set to the max. Oh well, too bad she wasn't down. Okay, I'll just go home and beat off to porn." Rather it's like, "Hmmm...How can I get this girl to come home with me. Damn, look at them titties....I'd love to have this chick bent over, while I'm ramming my dick into her...How can I make this happen?" And if I don't succeed, it actually sucks because I really wanted it. This is as oppossed to it being "Ah no big deal. At least I tried."
Now I'm starting to realize that if you do the right series of things, chicks become attracted. And chicks want sex BAD. I still don't have this idea fully engrained in my mind 100%...like, I don't completely understand exactly how badly chicks want it, and how exactly you are supposed to lead them to what they want, but that's what experience is for. And I'm not making any claims that I'm even nearly at the level I'd like to be. All I'm saying is that what I'm after is possible. It's a bit of a challenge, and it may take a while to perfect it, but I finally have that drive that makes me REALLY WANT TO SUCCEED.
Porn addiction is very bad. At least, for me and my sex life it was. It REALLY just takes away the whole "drive" out of "sex drive".
I just changed basically in these past few months. I'm a much different person then I was months ago. I ACTUALLY want to fuck chicks. I honestly didn't want to before. Like NVP once said to me, "How the hell are you supposed to be a sexual threat, if you don't even really want to fuck chicks?" It really didn't make sense to me until now.
Escalation is not supposed to be forced. It's supposed to be the animal instinct inside me to want to fuck the female.
P.S. It's amazing what lack of porn does to my confidence too. For some reason, I'm much more at ease with women (still not completly relaxed, but much less nervous), when I'm not constantly looking at that crap all the time.
At least is was for mine.... I will admit that I really liked looking at porn. For the 7 years I was with my ex-gf, we had sex less and less frequently. I never cheated on her, but honestly I had desires just like any other man does, so I looked at porn A LOT. I would say that I developed a very bad habit from looking at is so much. It became my "sex life". When I broke up with her, it was no big deal for me to go out and get more sex because I could always just get my fix whenever I wanted like I was used to doing for so long.
