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Anyways, he seems to be in a bit of denial that he's in complete control of her emotions yet fails to f-close her. He can get her topless but anything near the crotch and she shuts him down. She has thrown a ton of shittests and garbage at him in regards to something serious. My typical responses have been to move on. Hard next the broad and re-approach when you have your frame intact. He tries to verbalize the situation too often and rarely does it with BL.
I've always asked him the same questions:
How long have you invested in this interaction?
Has any meet-ups lead to anything sexual?
Regardless, he still thinks he is in control despite the fact he has failed to get things sexual, puts up with her shittests and has way too much time invested. Typical oneitis syndrome.
Anyways, we all have a good concept of what oneitis is. The inability to get that ONE girl out of our mind. She becomes some sort of conquest that everyone desires to conquer but fails to run proper game.
I threw out a serious question that I never really analyzed myself.
Do you continue to keep approaching other women?
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Are you approaching women to simply gain a bit of self-confidence for the moment?
Response: Yeah...
But I bet you rarely follow-up after a number close because for that moment you feel great but a few hours later you don't want to because you really don't want to jepordize whatever you THINK you have going for this chick.
Response: ...he had no response...
We both kind of realized that oneitis seems to creep up in various forms. I think a lot of us use pick up for a quick fix for a few social or internal problems but really fail to follow through with the majority of our closes. Especially when were stuck in a toxic situation such as desiring to re-connect with the ex or a simple enchantment from a random stranger that seems to be bedazzle the sense. I thought this was an interesting concept that we both realized we do our approachs without a problem. Close without a problem but fail to follow-up because we construct this notion that if we do we're crippling our chances of closing the chick we have oneitis for.
My question to the masses...are you doing this? Are you stuck in a oneitis situation and you're closing chicks just to surpass the time and gain a small ounce of confidence because you haven't realized you're suffering from a mild case of oneitis?
A fellow beginner PUA lead me onto this concept a little while back. He's been struggling to get over a chick he had f-closed a long time. They re-connected after about a year and he basically wants to hook up with the chick again. She leads him on but refuses to put out because she wants a LTR. The reason for the break-up was supposidly because she wanted an LTR a year ago and he wasn't ready to commit.
Response: 2 months <-- too long
Response: Nope <-- wasted time
Response: Yeah man, every chance I get I try to run a bit of game. Obviously I am not trying to stay hung up on this chick, I just want to lay her.
The Real Question:
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