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PU is a game that involves attraction and attraction comes from emotion. At every stage, if you watch your emotions, you will see spikes and dips. Before the approach... at approach... during conversation, at day 2, if LJBF happens, if you encounter LMR, after you have had sex, there is always some amount of emotion involved. If things go your way you are up, and if they don't, you get down.
This used to continously happen to me for many years. "Oh she is hot"... emotion up. "Oh man I blew my chance to talk to her"... emotion down... "oh the conversation is going well I think she likes me" emotion up... she tells you "you're a great friend" emotion down.
Not only are you trying to deal with all this up and down inside yourself, but you are also trying to deal with hers. So you react, rather than act. A while ago I made a post "How I conversate" where I said it is a mistake to play verbal tennis. Where she says something, and you respond. The same thing happens with all these emotions. I see guys that really are experienced, at times just bounce off a girl's reactions. Much of what is talked about on this forum is how to react to her act. I don't know how many of you notice this.
STAY CALM. Watch your emotions, and don't let them start having a conversation with you in your head.
Advanced guys control their ups and downs much better than rookies... this is a sign they have gone to the next level. But they still fail to control hers. Common mistake:
The girl gets on a high note. Loves the PUA. Wants him. Success for the PUA seems to have come strong and quick. So he goes for it. He takes what she gives him. He makes the mistake of thinking this is what he wanted, disregarding the amount of time it took to get her there. You get the SNL, and afterwards wonder what happened. Where did she go? She was just here and was in love with me! The problem was you cooked things too quickly. The temperature was too high and you burnt your cake.
If she is getting too excited too fast, you need to calm her down. I have often said to a woman BEFORE I have had sex with her "don't put me on this pedestal. I am not like you think I am. I am just an ordinary guy". Hell I have even turned down sex at times. Normal PUA knowledge says this has a detrimental effect, when it is quite the opposite. She will realize what she is doing, and be in awe of your calm control not only over yourself but over her. She is the hot one. She has always been the prize that always dictates. What is going on?
After feeling your strength, she eventualy gives in. Your are in control, dominant, she is subserviant to you. This is a natural position most woman want to assume. Even more so with HSE girls. The more HSE she is, (i.e. better looking, more intelligent, more socially desirable) the stronger that bond with you will be. Instead of being hopeful that you are the guy that she wants, she will start to know you are the guy that she wants. This sort of power, your ability to control not only your own but even her emotions will be intoxicating to her. When she is with you, she becomes calm. Her world, like most people's, is naturaly high energy and full of commotion. Drama. Hapiness and sadness. Look at most people's lives and this is what it mainly consists of. Once you are able to be the rock that she is looking for rather than yet another piece of drama in her life, you will own her. With the calm, you will have more power over her than any other PUA that is trying to game her. There are so few guys like this that you will be set apart immediately.
Eventually get a string of 10's chasing you all the time. If you guys want more specifics then ask me and I will try to elaborate.
I wanted to elaborate a little on one of the keys of my slow seduction/state of confusion post because some of you asked how I am doing this.
