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Right now I am turning down sex on a regular basis, because I have too many options on most nights. I usually just pick one, and sometimes, none.
This is the standard PU routine for most guys.... "connect the dots":
Dot 1: Open
For some guys it's like this:
Dot 1: Find girl
It is a huge amount of concentration on one task, one girl, in a consistently repetitive process. Too often girls are getting next'ed. Too much emphasis is on escalation. There seems to be a frantic "I must fuck her now before it fails" mentality. This is bad...
Just like in conversation I don't pick a thread, carry it to its end, then start another; I don't run a PU routine, carry it to a fclose, then start over. The sex that happens between me and girls is initiated by the girls. I am never upset at a woman that does not give me sex or stops me. This woman is the same woman that will have sex with me a week from now, a month from now, 6 months from now. She is the one that may become my wing girl, my pivot, or be my next lay's best friend. It always happens.
Some guys have a whole list of rules and regulations. Someone just made a post where he had his rules: Kiss on the lips at the end of night or next. Sex on 3rd date or next. These rules are no good. I will "next" a girl when I do not enjoy my time with her. If she is beautiful, if she makes me laugh, if she has a great personality, I am not going to next her because she didn't fuck me on the third date. If I am not feeling it, I simply will not remember to call her again. They just fall off my radar, naturally. It is her job to keep me interested.
So many guys are confused about escalation. I just do what I feel. She is beautiful and I feel like kissing her. So I kiss her. If I feel like doing more, I do. If not, I don't. Many times girls wonder... why the hell did Chopan just stop? Well... I felt like it. Contrast this to the guy who is thinking "OK what's my next step? How do I get her in the bedroom? Shit, did I do that right?". This is just a a recipie for disaster.
I am in a constant state of practice when I run into a woman. I open people all the time, all day long. I run attraction to any girl I am attracted to, all day long. I am always making jokes, making people laugh. My texts and emails are always interesting and funny. Women are constantly introducing me to more women. They are pre-selecting me. They run jealousy routines for me. I really don't do much anymore, other than the basic open, attract. The rest just happens.
Once this gets going, you won't need to escalate. They'll do it for you. You won't need to kino, they'll do it for you. You won't need to isolate, they'll do it for you. I don't mean be a wimp. If you are feeling her, then touch her. If she is standing at your door humming and huh'ing, then kiss her. Don't reach, but also don't resist what is coming.
There are times when I have been in bed with a woman naked, and she says "I shouldn't". No problem. "I understand, no problem" I tell her. She always comes back. If not that night, another night.
So the point of my post is, think more in terms of being the right guy in the center than a guy moving forward. Be calm, cool, and attractive instead of the guy constantly chasing. "Be the flame, not the moth" I think is a quote someone has in their signature. It is said perfectly. Too many guys on this forum have a moth mentality. By all means learn, but learn to be the flame.
Been on this board for a while and part of the community a while longer, and something has become apparent to me. I don't really pickup women as explained and taught in the community. I am in no way discounting the terrific information and advice shared here, but I don't use it to pick up girls in the sense that I meet, run game, get laid.
Dot 2: Attract
Dot 3: Escalate
Dot 4: Isolate
Dot 5: Sex
Dot 2: form relationship
Dot 3: breakup, next girl
