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I have had a hidden dynamic going on for well over a year (maybe much longer) with women, and I was completely oblivious to it and totally unable to read it. Searching the archives, I didn't really find anything that talked about this so I figured let me post, and you guys can chime in.
There have been times when I have had everything working with a woman. I mean textbook seduction. Yet I would still lose her at some point. I couldn't figure out why, but I would think on it a lot. Another thing I have had... women that have BF's, wanting to spend all sorts of time with me. Yet.... clearly no signs of ioi's coming, a big LJBF vibe (although I would never get that because my escalations are very calibrated). A third thing I have been trying to deal with is what I would call an unusual amount of negativity and anger coming towards me from one girl in set or even later on in LTR's. I started to think, and was wondering why all this was happening to me, and why it was increasing in frequency. I am not making any mistakes. I open well, I have instant attraction. My looks alone are almost always getting me ioi's from most of the women I interact with. I'm being interesting, funny, they love me. I am having sex with them left and right. Last couple of months, I have been concentrating on going to events that feature models. Fashion shows, Modeling contests, Promotions, etc. I picked up two women doing promotions. I strongly recommend this to guys that have their game down. Screw the local bar. Some of these models are prime material.
Anyway, what I am trying to say is that I have had a crazy mix of unreal success, and also horrible failure, like I had zero game. WTF I have been thinking to myself.
Well the other night I finally figured it out. I realized I am creating too much attraction. It is just biting me in the ass. The sets where I get serious animosity, these girls were just bitches because they were really attracted to me. They figured they can't get me and they turn real bitchy. I have even had that from the hottie in the set. I've pulled anyway. The other one.... chicks with BF's spending time with me and not giving me any ioi's. Why would they do this? They would actually bring up their BF over and over to me. Why? because they want to be with me, but they are not willing to risk anything, and are too afraid that I may turn them down. They are not going for an SNL, they want the LTR with me. This is their fucked up woman way of trying to do this. I am not even sure they are aware they are doing this on a concious level. I mean... it sounds nuts, but now that I think about it, it all makes sense. The third one... losing a girl in a fairly short term LTR when everything was going well. Even with the amount of attention I gave them (trust me, it was a lot), they get insecure. It isn't enough. The attraction level is so high that they do all sorts of weird shit. That includes leaving and then trying to get back in touch with me. Then I would meet them later and so much anger comes my way. In what form? In the "I really didn't feel it with you anymore" form. Here I was looking for a flaw in my game....
How do I know this? because after I realized this, I started to adjust. Less game, less attraction, more attention. More AFC shit. More "God you are beautiful". More "Can we hang out today?" ... Ever since I started to be more AFC, everyone is magically happier and a lot more "giving".
WHAT THE FUCK.... so I am posting this, so that the guys that may have this and be unaware, become more aware. Don't skim over this post and say "nah that's not me". Always consider this possibility. Women will have all sorts of extremely bizzare behaviors towards this. No two will act the same, but negativity will come towards you. Know why. Sometimes she is just a hell of a lot more attracted than you think she is. The hotter the woman, the more this can happen. She is simply not used to not being in control. She is not used to being that highly attracted to ONE GUY. She won't know how to handle it. Keep this post in the back of your mind. I have experienced this A LOT.
OK, I have to share so that some of you guys don't make the same mistakes I made. I'm not sugar-coating this post, forgive me if at any point it sounds arrogant. Believe me, it is not. What I am saying here is the truth, to share. That is all.
