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Background on the initial pickup;
From there she carried on selling shots about the club, i know that every member of Sheffield lair have talked to her at this point and i believe V dropped the fact i used to work here and grabbed me as i was going past to verify the fact to her. i told her that i did and i know what it can be like for shooters girls so if it ever gets too much she can always use me as a safe base, this she seemed to genuinely appreciate. So through the night had i few interactions with her just quick chats on how things were going, whats been happening etc nothing to set the heart racing pretty chill. I did have some kino nothing sexual just nudges and pats. It was coming to the end of the night, she was in the back of my mind. I didn't feeling like i had attracted her as i hadn't run any "game" per say and i didn't really see any ioi's but rags suggested i should attempt a close anyway. I had dashed off and found her, approached direct said that we was going to have a bank holiday house party and she should come, she liked the idea gave me the number and hug an off i went.
I didn't feel this pickup at all and i thought this number would be a flake but low and behold before i could even txt her the next day i get this;
hbhired gun txt - Hey thanks for lookin after me lst nite. Where is this party at then? X
captain n txt - Your welcome, but i get the feeling you don't need any lookin after. It's in broomhill will text the local and times tomorrow. You end up stayin till close?
hbhired gun txt - Possibly. Ye almost til close cos i had to sell a few more. I think iv got a couple o ppl hu wana come, so il look out for tht txt n hopefully c u 2mz. X
next day i text her the logistics of this party however due to some unforeseen circumstance the party was called off, so i let her know later on and advised her i'd be around town instead. I got back this,
hbhired gun txt - Ah well, thanks for the invite anyway. Hopefully see u around, il be in tav 2nite. X
The next day i txted her
captain n - Howdy,avin a good bank holiday i hope. Town was full bank holiday crazies as per usual. Since i didn't get the chance 2 hang wid u sun,we should hangout later this week instead. Hows ur week lookin? hb hiredgun - Well, im busy 2nite n thur bt iv got tue n wed off work, so could do smt then. Wt did u have in mind? X
captain n - I'm off out for a meal 2night but i can do wed after work at say 9.30. I was thinkin just a quick drink and a game of pool. If your feelin more adventurous i can show you the cocktail circuit. hb hiredgun - Thats cool, it has to be said that im better at sippin cocktails thn i am at playin pool, but im wrkin frm 7am on thur so wel hv to c hw it goes... Where n wt time? X
I send the logistics and on to the day2 Day 2
We play pool have a few drinks, she does most of the talking while i ask questions about her passions, her life etc. I tease a little bit sometimes, when the conversation dies i just focus on the pool game. i really don't try just watch as our interaction trundles along, it's not boring just a chill interaction between to people getting to know each other.
We played a few sets i got the sense things were getting a bit stagnant dunno if it was me or her who suggested the bounce but we move onto a cool indie bar nearby. We get some strawberry beer and sit down she keeps her distance on the couch i ask if i smell and tell her to move closer. I put my hand on her back, kinda stroke her on and off as we chat.
I though this day2 was below par myself and didn't really expect anything after but the next morning i get this text
I have yet to receive a reply but i expect one next week but i will keep this thread post on the progress.
Things on reflection that would have helped push the date forward and what i will be focusing on next month;
Things that i learnt and what went well;
Background on whats going on with my game;
i am currently doing a brad p style 30/30 challenge with my local (Sheffield) lair.
This past month was basically base lining, so doing basically 30 approaches without any intention other than seeing how far it goes, no bells or whistles. Well one of my approaches turned into a number close and day2 meet so i thought what the hay i'll do a day2 baseline as well. For those who have never heard of base lining it is basically the principle that most gyms use. When you first begin your workout regime they gauge your base fitness level in order to calibrate a program that is challenging but not beyond your capabilities. I love this principle and am currently trying to apply it to other parts of my life as well.
I was out with the Sheffield lair (rags included) going to a local club called Leadmill which was a club i used to bar supervise at yonks back. Anyhow i spent most of the night in this weird pickup cynicism that i seem to be going through, not particularly approaching just having fun with the guys mostly. Anyhow me and v are chatting at the bar, along comes hbhiregun who is offering out shots to buy. My game is a lot about banter and creating a fun vibe but this time i thought since i was base lining i would just keep things fairly cool and relaxed not really putting much effort in. We both engaged her saying that her selling technique was pretty bad, i offered some advise basically saying to flirt more but in a womanly way ie hair flicks, giggles etc. She said this was her first night, I started telling her how I'd just come back from Edinburgh fringe festival where i was constantly harassed by flyer's and the best were those that conveyed their personality. From that she transitioned that she had just come back from traveling and we talked about that and shared a few traveling stories, after this i thought the interaction was dying a little so i told her she should carry on selling to others.
I arrange to meet her at a bar in town, she comes in quick hug and hello, i say i prefer to go straight to the bar/poolhall.
On the quick walk there i just chatting with whatever comes to mind some stuff boring some stuff interesting not really focusing on "game" just letting whatever come out.
It's getting late she says she is meeting some friends at a local club, she tells me her friends think i should come along. I said i was already planning on going to the very same club but my buds bailed, which was alright by me as i'm knackered from doing a fasting challenge the day before (plus i still recovering from a nasty cold and feeling a bit gross).
I agree to walk her to the club as a compromise which is near my place anyhow, her friends come out we say hi briefly and they drag her in. But before she leaves i get a hug and she tells me to txt her.
hbhiredgun - Hey hope wrks fun, club was v average. it was really fun chillin with u last night, we should repeat it some time soon. X
captain n - Yes, much fun was had, especially watchin ur attempts at pool I won't be free till next week now. Let me know how ur week looks and see if we can meet again.
So this is my baseline for my day2 what's weird is that i still don't feel she was/is into me and that seems to stem from the fact that i don't feel like i have done anything to attract her apart from being me. This attraction to me is still hard to believe and is a reflection on how my outer game is way more advanced than my inner game». It's my self esteem which needs developing at the moment but i don't know how i can actively develop this. This particular subject seems to be going round the Sheffield lair at the moment with the only conclusion that with time and persistence it will come. If anyone has any other ways to develop self esteem please drop me a line.
-Be more decisive in my leading
-Kino escalation
-put my balls on the chopper and go for SEXUAL ESCALATION.
*really push my sets
- It doesn't have to be perfect
- don't put value on a person until you get too know them
- don't assume things about people based solely on their looks
- being willing to walk away, creates comfort
- it's kinda feels weird if you don't escalate
- always push your sets even if they don't feel on.
