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Let's face it. Most guys who are inexperienced with women crave a girl who they can fall in love with. They think that they can have this romance where the chick is like their buddy - their go-to person. That's a man's fantasy, not a woman's.
They think that they can find a soul mate who will give them their love forever. It sounds like a great deal actually. Imagine what it would be like if a woman loved you like she loves you in the first 3 months, forever? The average guy would probably be satisfied enough not to feel the need to make an active effort to find any other girls.
And while you see plenty of romance novels, and soap operas, women do not view romance and love the same way as men do. It is radically different. And although romance novels often focus on intense passion and sex, they all end in betaization. Men think that this last part is NOT part of that fantasy, but it actually IS. It's not just the sex, it's EVERYTHING involved in the whole process of "getting a man."
I met a man who told me that the only thing that men in women have in common is that they walk upright. Nothing else.
He said that the relationship between a man and a woman is like the relationship between a buyer and a seller. I woman is trying to sell a man on commitment and marriage. This is the main purpose of pursuing men. The longer it takes for a man to opt into that commitment, the less and less a woman will try to sell you on it. She gets tired and resentful when you aren't buying. And what is she trying to sell you with? Sex and love.
To women, relationships with men are equal in value to everything else in her life. You are of equal importance as her friends, her family, her dog, her job, her hobbies, her beliefs, etc. It may not seem like this at first, but you will soon see.
Once you buy into that commitment, the romantic relationship is essentially over, because there is no real point to selling someone who is already sold. Once they are a buyer, you give them what they need because you know that they will take it. No selling involved.
Men on the other hand are a bit different in their view of relationships and women. With a man, the foundation of everything in his life can most often be his monogamous woman. Once he thinks that he's in love and marries the girl, he will build all the other things in his life on top of that, like a pyramid. She's the foundation, and everything else is on top of it. When a man loves a woman, and commits to her, he usually gives her his all. That's why you see a lot of men who are divorced are incredibly bitter because they sacrifice so much in hopes that she will love you forever. Love is only a selling point, not the product. The product is the house, babies, marriage, and family.
You can see this when men become betaized. They forget all their alpha friends and begin structuring their lives and making choices based on the relationship. Guys like this have a very difficult time with breaking up. The reason is because they wake up and take a look around and can no longer see the person that they once were; they only see the man they've become because of the woman. And notice how rare it is that a woman changes for a man. How often do you see a woman get tattoo's and smoking cigarettes because she is dating a guy in a rock band? Do you often see a woman picking up on your habits, or do you end up picking up hers? More often times than not, men leave their own lives and go into the woman's world. The frog always changes into a prince.
Overall, women do not want love, they want security. A woman will trade her freedom for security. Whereas, a man will trade security for freedom.
I met another man who said:
"I'm on vacation for 2 weeks. I'm gonna spend the first 3 days with my 16 year old son, and then he's going on a cruise with his mother. She married some cruise director, so they will all be on vacation. The day he leaves, I'm getting on to my Harley and hitting the road. I got no place to go but I'm just goin'."
Sounds all too familiar.
Don't worry about breaking a woman's heart. She cries just as hard when her cat dies.
Guys,
