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almost two years ago I met a girl in my new small town on facebook. She challenged me right off the bat, "why are you adding me", "where did you come from", "what are you looking for with women", "oh so you think you're a player".
I was more brash and less calibrated and less discreet back then. I had a hard time getting her to be comfortable with me. Then when I did get her into isolation, quite honestly, I got nervous. I didn't boldly escalate and it fizzled. I really did like her that much. I don't talk about it because I prefer to talk about my successes and keep shit positive for you guys, but in this context it's important.
What I DIDN'T do with this woman is supplicate, beg, discuss, or get pushy with.
Next I picked up the 20 year old towel girl from the hot springs. I told her she looked radiant and that she should come and hang out with me sometime. We exchanged numbers. She texted me within the hour to say I made her day. Next time I saw her I fucked her on my couch.
So girl #1, the more mature woman that I got timid with, invites me to take her out for dinner hahaha. I decided to buy her dinner ... we then venue change from the restaurant to the pub where some "really cool DJs are playing she wants to check out". Wow how far I've travelled since then!
My 20YO FB starts texting me and saying she is going there, IOW, MOST of the hot chicks and their oribiters are going THERE. Interesting situation. So I decide I've already laid towel girl and she wants another piece of me obviously so this should be an easy choice.
Mature girl convinces me to to take her back to my place It goes kinda badly, she gives me big LMR and acts as if she is mad at me. It doesn't occur to me in my drunken ignorance that this is the moment for me to take her sexually. I really believe she wants to argue with me.
And I never lose an argument
So I kick her out. Anyway next thing I know she is doing HARD CORE badmouthing of me to towel girl. Inviting her to come for a home cooked meal at her place, crazy shit like that.
We get into it on facebook and I delete her. I completely forget about her for the next 14 MONTHS. GFTOW and all that. I did not try to call her, text her, inquire about her, or stalk her facebook page. Not once, under the rationalization of "well I'll just let her know I am not mad at her anymore".
Last week she phoned me at work, came to see me at work, re-added me as a friend on facebook, told me all about her new fabuluous boyfriend who is a well-liked and important guy in town, and sent me a few texts with some x's and o's in them.
Just let it be noted that I am not getting involved with women who have boyfriends of his caliber. I am not trying to start wars.
Anyway my point is that because I stood my ground and never supplicated, and I wasn't TOO harsh with her, she came back stronger than ever. This is not the first time this has happened to me.
Oneitis can be even when you feel like you're making progress with a girl like I did, and be so afraid to fuck it up you end up fucking it up anyway.
The point is to handle your business like a man should. If you do that, you greatly increase the odds she will come back into your life in the future. Let me give you an example.
