Regal is a member of the mASF forum. Acronyms used in this article can be looked up on the acronyms page. To get involved in discussions like this, you can join the mASF discussion forum at fastseduction.com/discussion.
Original discussion thread: http://fastseduction.com/discussion/fs?action=9&boardid=2&read=100399&fid=105
A typical post I'm seeing here reads like this: Guy: "She's not giving me what I want. If she doesn't shape up, she's going to get the boot."
And then the poster goes on talking about what he wants, what he's not getting, how unfair it is that she's treating him the way she is, how she just doesn't get it. And other guys encourage this, telling him if a chick doesn't get the deal, she's garbage, so next her. Or, they may troubleshoot some of his emergency actions, and tell him to be a man and not chase after her and let her go and she'll come back.
Almost nowhere do I see anyone addressing the root of the problem: why the woman is acting that way in the first place. It seems to just be assumed, "Well, if she's acting that way, there must be something wrong with her."
This, of course, doesn't solve anything. The guy will forge on ahead, and maybe get the girl back for a while, while she continues to give him more and more attitude and resistance, until eventually they break up for good. And then the guy will get into another relationship and have the same exact problems all over again.
There's a book I highly recommend reading as a prerequisite for having relationships. It's called How to Win Friends and Influence People -- by Dale Carnegie. One of the main, most powerful, most important points the book makes again and again is that if you want people to want what YOU want, you have to make sure they know that you UNDERSTAND their needs, have THEIR INTERESTS at heart, and that by helping you they are helping THEMSELVES.
Relationships don't fail because the other person is a piece of crap. Relationships fail when a man fails to meet a woman's needs, and fails to show her he understands what she needs and is looking out for what she needs. That doesn't mean you have to give a woman everything she's asking for -- you'll dig yourself into an entirely different hole by doing that. But you DO need to communicate with her that you understand her, and you DO need to get her on-board with understanding that what you're doing with her and for her is in her BEST interest. If she stops believing that, no amount of "being a man" will keep her from walking away.
Just leafing through some of these relationship posts, and finding myself recoiling at what I'm reading. I'm seeing a lot of the same trends over and over again.
