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---Summarized concept (what works for me):
-During (or shortly after) your first contact, playfully talk about trying new recipes. This works for talking in person during a number close; texting/on the phone later or online.
-Mention dishes you enjoy to get ideas of what she likes.
-Go to dishes you’ve done before, pulled from cookbooks, online or a friend.
-Get her to bring ingredients/contribute to the meal.
-Playfully call her your ‘guinea pig’ so to lower expectations if the dish isn’t great and get the feeling of being on a small adventure together. (This will also get her comfortable to be your ‘guinea pig’ for other things- start with massage techniques and go from there.)
-Meet at her place or your’s (just the two of you) and use her as an assistant in the kitchen, getting her use to taking commands; use eye fucking; let her see you work with a sense of purpose; instruct her while in a standing ‘spooning’ position (like the cliché’ about giving a woman golfing instructions) as a way to get into touching and talking into her ear/down her body.
-Some were during this interaction do a little push-pull for your own amusement. Go over to her and ‘supervise’. Touch her on the arm, tease her that she’s ‘doing that wrong’ (slicing carrots, meat, what-the-hell-ever) then joke ‘no you’re doing just fine’. Go back to what you were doing, she should come over- tease her and lightly push her away ‘hey get back over there!” Smile a little and go back to what you were doing.
-Eat and say very little, eye fuck and get her to say how much she’s enjoying herself. By ‘eye fucking/eye fuck’ I mean when you both stare into each other’s eyes. You’ll do this past the point of passing a common look- it’s obvious that you’re both thinking about things of a sexual nature, a little smile will often creep across one (if not both) of your faces. This will usually only last seconds but the tension in the room will often become thick and your breathing will (often) naturally become deeper. This is very powerful and will test your confidence as you’ll naturally want to look away.
-Put the dishes away (you may play around while washing them to get more of a partnership thing going or just put them in the sink) at which point you’ve touched, possibly kissed, eyefucked and displayed lots of value while building large amounts of comfort. (Fire) escalate at will.
Most women on the ‘dating scene’ don’t cook with or get cooked for by men. They just don’t. BUT being cooked for (or even cooking with someone) can be incredibly comforting, fun and memorable experience for them. Guys: you’ve gotta admit a great home cooked meal beats a good restaurant most days of the week. We’re just lazy about doing the cooking or knowing how to really throw something together.
This should be a woman you want to date/fool around with a little while. If you don’t need the extra step in gaming her- don’t do it. If you can just drag her home from the bar and fuck her- then just do that. But if she’s worth the effort- go ahead with this. It can be fun and you can use what you learn in the kitchen with her on future women.
Depending on logistics you may use your place or her’s; depending on your budget (and what you expect her to throw down) you might go with something cheap or a little extra; depending on your skill level in the kitchen you might go simple or something a little out there she may have never tried; depending on how good you are at day or night game you might show up at her place in the afternoon or invite her to your’s after the sun goes down. All logistics- whatever works man.
I usually go to her place as my kitchen is tiny; go cheap as you can impress a girl while spending under $30 if she’s never had the dish and you pull it off (not that I’m any good in the kitchen- online cook sites are great); I go with an afternoon get together to throw her off with a pleasant surprise when I start giving it to her in the kitchen. Whatever works man.
Like I hinted at- if you don’t know how to cook go to ehow or do youtube searches, ask friends and family for recipes and tutorials on what the hell a wok is. It doesn’t take much. I once got in a girls pants 20 minutes after cooking us burgers with caramelized onions on our day 1.
When you talk to them on the phone: tell her ‘I’ve got this recipe I want to try, I’m gonna use you as a guinea pig” this should get a laugh and an O.K. on her end.
DO NOT get corny and go the candle light route, DO NOT (or I would not recommend) breaking out a bunch of doe and cooking something pricey/showey (is that a word? Shit I don’t think so….) these things put expectations on the situation. One thing I’ve learned is women from all walks of life don’t like a walking cliché, they would rather the badboy cook them a steak and give them the ‘I’m gonna fuck you hard after I eat this meat’ eyes than the ‘we’re gonna eat caviar over candle light then I’m gonna listen to your feelings and walk you to your car arm in arm and kiss you on the cheek just to tell you how much you mean to me and how much I respect you.”
You can’t be both, pick one. The best you will fall close to one of these- with your own spin on it. I’ll tell you this- the rich guy may feed her shrimp and send her home, she may call her friends and say how much she respects richy rich- but when she kicks her shoes off it’s the rich guy’s gardener who comes over and fucks her, chugs her last beer and leaves without a word.
Building a woman up to the rarity of being cooked for has actually gotten me into a position of leaving the ingredients on the kitchen counter; while doing all kinds of things to each other on the couch- never making it back to the meal project. Hell some of those ingredients are still sitting in my cabinets.
Start escalating as soon as you start working in the kitchen. Deep smile and deeper eye penetration.
This is a pretty simple concept, but one worth taking a look at.
Just a push-pull example, you get the idea. This will get her chasing your affections/approval. Never fully give that.
Don't stop with the push-pull/two step forwar one back- as things progress you might: bite her on the leg to shock her and go back to what you were doing like nothing happened "What?! Haha" This one takes balls. Act like you're going to do it again a few minutes later but kiss her on the same spot.
-Summary:
She will dig taking orders from you as your assistant, she will get turned on seeing you work with a ‘sense of purpose’, she will roll around like a pig in shit in this unique comfort building; literally eating the fruits of your combined labor will be comfort building (as will the entire Endeavour) and mutually rewarding. If you work and move with confidence she may just watch you with puppy dog eyes the entire time.
