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Since about 2009 though, I have been experiencing a slow and steady decline in my 'life' in general.
1) My new career has not panned out the way I envisioned. Obviously the economy has played a large role but the negative progress has been my number #1 burden and affected everything else I do including feelings of depression, lethargy, sadness. The bottom line is I am surviving but feeling that I am NOT anywhere near where I should be at this point of my life. To put it in some context I made more money when I graduated college then I do now on the doorsteps of 30. I guess success is something I value highly, not even monetary success (though that would be great) but achieving something or being recognized in my field is something that I value. Right now after 3 years of struggling I'm still an entry-level scrub.
2) Hand in hand with #2 is dealing with 'alpha' males at work. I am surrounded by succesfull, wealthy men and I have a hard time 'relaxing' around them. They consider me smart but 'soft spoken'. They joke around constantly but I don't really feel like part of the conversation. Additionally I get really nervous speaking up. It's really a problem. I don't have this problem in social settings nearly as much as at work. I specifically identified this as a major issue since I feel dealing with people of influence (network) is as important if not more so then actual talent or skill. Anecodately, rather then spend time socializing with the 'management' I spend time with the less talented, less 'important' people. This may not be as clear due to my poor writing ability but this is very important roadblock in my life.
3) Obviously success with women has dropped to 0. The LTR was my last experience with a girl, since break-up I've only slept with her. No numbers, no other lays, absolutely nada. The worst part is that I don't seem to care that much. I rationalize this by telling others and myself that I don't want to meet or bang average chicks anymore and that I only want to make an effort on hot chicks. Therefore I usually end up doing nothing.
5) Location. I had a sweet pad in midtown but have since been forced to downgrade to uptown. If your not from NYC it will be hard to explain why this is a problem but let me tell you that the neighborhood you live in is definetly something you are measured on. 2 questions you will be asked by everyone/anyone you meet here is what do you do and where do you live. After moving out of 'manhattan' I realize how stupid it is but there is a palpable effect on women if you live in a non-sanctioned area. I have a co-worker that lives across the river and we joke sometimes how much a girl is disappointed when he says he lives in NJ. So on top of lack of confidence derived from work, this is another blow.
I'm creating this thread to log my thoughts, roadblocks, and start holding myself accountable to make changes. Hopefully also get some advice and guidance by others who are succesful in life. Most importantly to TAKE ACTION, any ACTION but DO SOMETHING as opposed to analyze and 'think' about a solution which I have a tendency to do.
I discovered this site in 2007 and about the same time moved to NYC to pursue a brand new career and since have made some profound changes in my experience with women. In my mid twenties I greatly increased the number of lays and even bagged my first LTR and first HB9 (and an NYC 9 no less, 21 yo actress, hot hot hot)
4) Activities and exercise have also gone out the window. My diet is absolutely attrocious (takeout everyday). I tell myself THIS should be priority #1, even over career. Health is certainly more important then wealth. But I just rationalize it away. Take-out is cheaper then grocery store (in NYC it actually is!), don't have time, I should spend my time trying to make some cash. I use to be part of a soccer league but have done nothing in maybe a year or two besides a short run here or there.
