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First of no matter what some people say, you can’t rely on good results with girls, or good reactions from anyone for it. If you do, than your entire emotional state is under other people’s control. Your confidence will always depend on each individual sarge and every interaction you have.
Example: someone looks at you with disgust and calls you a loser. You think: “oh no I’m actually a loser”. So now you’re depressed. Someone else says: “you’re so fucking cool”. Now you think “wow I guess I’m actually really cool”. So now you're "confident" and in a good mood. This is terrible.
I used to # close and be excited, than get rejected and bam my whole state would go down. I also tried working out (and I still do) but it didn't help either. This however helped me A LOT:
1. Accept your appearance. If you’re fat lose weight, if you’re too skinny gain weight… But accept it. You don’t need to look like a model to get girls or have friends. If people don’t like you for your looks (something that’s largely beyond our control), they’re simply stupid. Besides, there’s always an uglier/fatter/skinnier guy getting laid right now.
2. Accept your interests. Would you stop liking some movie, if someone told you that it’s crap? Maybe you’d agree with them, but you’ll still like it. YOU like it, so that’s all that matters.
3. Accept your job/living conditions. Maybe you’re working as a janitor at 35, and living with your parents. Maybe you’re 24, with no college degree or future options and living in your mom’s basement. It doesn’t matter how bad your life maybe. Accept it and don’t be embarrassed of it. You should always try to improve your life, but don’t think that just ‘cause it isn’t fixed now that you’re somehow worse than others.
4. Accept your opinions/views as being your foundation. This doesn’t mean that you should be stubborn and never change your views, or think that you’re smarter than everyone. This means that if you think that a certain movie sucks, or a certain food is great, or that some opinion is wrong… you make it a fact in your mind. IOW you’re not embarrassed of it, and you won’t change it just to fit someone else’s point of view.
5.Know who you are. Have an identity. Do you think that you’re smart? Do you consider yourself good looking? Do you like your job? Basically decide who you are and stick to your decisions. You know better than others who you are. So if you think that you’re a winner, you’re not affected if someone considers you a loser. Define for yourself what it means to be a “winner” or a “loser”.
6. Accept that other people’s opinions of you don’t matter. For example, if someone thought you were gay and you aren’t, you’d think they’re wrong. So why would you be upset if someone thinks that you’re a loser, or stupid, or boring…? Other people don’t decide your identity for you, you do.
7. Do what YOU want. Try to do what you want as much as possible. Do it because YOU want to and you never know when you’ll die. Maybe you’ll die tomorrow in a car accident(hopefully not)..You never know when you’ll die, so why waste time being afraid of being YOU?
This stuff may take a while to internalize, but I know from my own experience that this will make you VERY confident. I hope this helps.
Most if not ALL of problems with girls come from having little or no confidence. This used to be a MAJOR SP for me. It took me a long time to get it fixed, but trust me the results are worth it,a nd anyone can do it.
