An example of a simple 2-on-2 approach (ASF): "Hi... my friend isn't from
here (introduce friend)... so how do you guys know each other?" You can also use this
to approach a larger group. "So how does everyone know everyone else?" Yeah,
that line is great... especially when the truth comes out and the guy that THOUGHT he was
here on a date finds out he's only HANGING OUT with the girl he wants and she declares
herself free for your picking:)" An example of a pattern-like approach (ASF): "I'm sure that you, like me,
have had some really interesting experiences in your life. You know experiences that were
incredibly fascinating and absorbing, like maybe when you were a kid and you went to a
museum and you just got lost in wonder and delight at what you were seeing. If you were to
share a memory about one of your most interesting experiences, a person you met perhaps,
or a place you've been, or something you've learned that still holds a deep interest for
you, what would it be?" Another pattern-like approach. Odious, ASF:
""Excuse me (to get her to stop) I just wanted to say thank you." Her curiosity bells just went DING. She'll almost inevitably ask why, though it is ok
if she doesn't. Move into standard mirroring and rapport building techniques as you
continue... "Have you ever had one of those days where, you find yourself feeling sort of
aloof... you're not really happy, but not really sad either... you just feel like your
adrift. Then suddenly you find you bump into somebody with an incredibly warm and
beautiful smile that just makes you feel wonderful for the rest of the day?" She will almost surely smile more at this point, or give some degree of positive
response. "So, I just had to thank you for brightening up my day... Though, you know it
would be a shame if this is the last time I'll see that wonderful smile... what's your
name?"" An example of approaching girls in cafeterias with some aspects of patterning.
ASF:
- Walk up from a direction where they can see you coming (I like them to feel like I
walked up to them confidently, not like I'm trying to sneak up on them or trick them).
- Sit down while you say something with a big smile and like you've known them your whole
life. It doesn't much matter what you say, but if you say something interesting it makes
it easier to continue the conversation (now they have had a state change and are wondering
if they know you).
- Make interesting conversation (use patterns if you know them) while mirroring them. Tell
them a little bit about yourself then SMOOTHLY #close.
M: "So, How was you day" (sit down)
H: "Good... how was yours" (This is a very typical response if you were
smooth with the intro).
M: "My day was awesome so far (try to match her outlook, if she looks
completely down try "pretty good").I had a great day at work, and then one of my
closest friends that I hadn't talked to in a while called me. You know how you can just
talk to someone and no how long it's been you just _feel_ this great connection with
them..."
H: "That's cool, I have a friend like that"
M: "Someone you can really trust, who always makes you feel good to talk
to?"
H: "Yeah, I've known her forever"
M: ...
H: ...
M: "I have to go, but I've really enjoyed this conversation, why don't you
give me your number and we can talk again" "How was your day", pacing and rapport building. Anubis, ASF: "If
there's nothing particularly interesting about the environment in which you find
yourselves, the first sentence or two gives you the perfect opportunity to pace her (this
is more what I'd be tempted to do at a party or some social gathering). -----
Example 1 You walk across to her and, genuinely interested, ask:
"So, how was your day?"
In a fraction of a second she flickers through the events of the day, smiles, and says
"Great!" Her smile is infectious and you find yours matching it as you reply.
"Excellent! So was mine. What did you do?" She's had a great day. You've had a great day. She feels a small (at this stage) degree
of rapport and should have little problem sharing her good mood. This leads her into
talking about what she did to have such a great day, a list of sentences in which you
should find any number of conversational hooks to bite on. -----
Example 2 You walk across to her and, genuinely interested, ask:
"So, how was your day?"
In a fraction of a second she flickers through the events of the day, sighs, and says
"Awful." Her sadness is infectious and you feel an empathic frown flow across
your face as you ask "Oh, what happened?" This then thereotically leads her into talking about what happened, and gives you the
opportunity to show her that you can bring her from a pisspoor mood into a happy one. Hear
her out. Whereas to fix up our bad moods we (i.e. men) usually look for solutions to the
cause, women tend to share their feelings. Once she's unloaded the baggage, you've got
rapport. Time to turn her mood around and get her happy. Not easy, but attainable. -----
Example 3 You walk down to her and, genuinely interested, ask: "So, how was your day?"
She's in a torpor. "Boring."
Looking for a spark of life to flash across her eyes, you continue.
"Oh. In which case, how was yesterday?"
She sighs. "Just as bad."
Medic! We need some 50mg of adrendaline over here, STAT!
You figure it's time to have some fun and, placing your hands apart as if you're measuring
a fish, say: "So you're pretty sure you don't feel *this* excited yet?"
She looks, pauses. "No."
You bring your hands closer. "Perhaps you're feeling this excited?"
She can see where you're going. Was that slight muscle-twitch a hint of a smile hastily
covered?
"Not really."
You hold up in one hand a very small gap between your thumb and forefinger and, smiling
but seriously: "Could you possibly be at the very least, entertaining the thought of
considering the likelihood of being *this* excited." If you can bring a smile to a catatonic, they'll love you for it. Same with angry
people. Personally, I enjoy the challenge of making pissed-off people smile." You look exactly like.... A brilliant opener by Clifford, Clifford's Seduction
Newsletter: "My all purpose opener. I look at them as if I recognize them and then I
go up and say "Excuse me, I don't mean to interrupt you while you are (whatever she
is doing), but you look exactly like... you know, it is amazing how much you look like
this person... you look just like (as you drag this out you develop rapport immediately,
it's great)..." From here you have to judge her personality. The real ending is "You look exactly
like... someone I should get to know better" or "...somebody I would like to
meet!" But if you sense that she's uptight or has no sense of humour, go serious with
something like "...you know, the more I look at you the more I realize that you
aren't who I thought you were, but I would like to meet you in any event. My name
is..."." The Horoscope. Brother Andy, Clifford's Seduction newsletter:
"Hey, my horoscope today said that I need to make new friends, and as weird as that
sounds, I could actually use some new friends. My name is [Myname]"
"Hi, I'm [Cutegirl]"
"It's nice to meet you, [Cutegirl]"
[Smalltalk]
"Well, I'm in a hurry, but if I could get your number so we can sit down and have
some lunch one day, that'd be great."
"Okay, sure [Myname], here" | 
