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“The First 60 Seconds” – September 8, 2001

This week I want to talk about one of the most critical times when meeting a woman… it’s the first 60 seconds.

Besides the obvious point that you want to make the right first impression, there are a few things that happen (or don’t happen) which most guys either overlook or never realize.

If you understand the dynamics of the first 60 seconds or meeting a new women, it will REALLY help you take the relationship to the next level.

Probably the most important thing to realize is that THE FIRST 60 SECONDS MAY SEEM AWKWARD, BUT YOU MUST KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING!

Here’s why: Whenever you meet someone new, they were most likely thinking about or doing something else before you started talking to them. When you start the new conversation, it often takes a little while for the woman that you’ve just met to relax and start opening up.

Most guys make the mistake of thinking that a woman isn’t interested if she doesn’t start smiling and laughing immediately. They give up if a woman looks even a little bit shy or uncomfortable.

DON’T DO THAT!

Stick with it. Keep talking. If you’ve read my other newsletters and my book “Double Your Dating” you know that I love to use sarcastic humor. This is a great time to comment on what is happening around you to break the ice and make her smile.

A few years ago when I started getting good at meeting women and getting phone numbers, I started to notice a really interesting pattern.

At first, most of the women that I would talk to would seem kind of shy and reserved… but as I talked to them for a few minutes, they would become more interesting and comfortable.

Now, before I knew better, I would just take this shy or reserved response to mean “I’m not interested” and I’d give up before I even got started… but now I’ve learned different.

Often, a woman will look uninterested even if she IS interested. The fact is that a lot of times, the woman that you’re talking to doesn’t know how to act or respond to you.

Even if you’re talking to an attractive woman who obviously gets approached by a lot of men, this reserved response is usually just a standard way of filtering those men who are persistent from those that aren’t.

Another possibility is that you’re not her ideal “physical type” and she’s going to need to get to know you a little bit better in order to warm up to you.

Are you with me?

You have to realize that probably half the time, a “cold” reception does NOT mean that she wants you to go away. It just means “Tell me more… open me up… make me interested in you.”

Another common situation is that the woman you’re talking to just naturally likes to play “hard to get.”

This is a actually more common than most men think, in my opinion. Women know that if they play hard to get, men will do more, try harder, and offer more in exchange for their attention.

One thing I like to do to take a conversation to the next level is to comment on or ask a question about how she’s acting when I first meet her. Let’s say that I’m in a mall shopping, and I’m talking to a sales woman at a store. I might say “So how’s your day going?”

If she says “fine” but has a blank look on her face I might say “Fine, huh? That sounds like about a 5 on a scale of 1-10.”

This usually gets a laugh, and she might say “Yea, well it’s been a long day, and I want to go home…”

Even though it sounds simple, this one comment kind of takes the conversation to the next level, and helps get past that “surface conversation” that always happens.

Finally, if you’ve been talking to a woman for a few minutes, and you’re still getting no signs of life, it’s always good to say “Hey, do you have email?” and if she say’s “yes” then have her give it to you.

She might just be in a bad mood, and she might just love a little note later that says “Hey, it was nice talking to you… you seemed like you might have been busy today, but email me and maybe I’ll have some time this week and you can join me for a cup of coffee and some good conversation.”

It never hurts to be persistent.

If you’re looking for more good ideas on how to act and how to make a woman feel attracted to you, check out my online eBook “Double Your Dating” at:

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You’ll learn all kinds of great ways to make her feel that gut level attraction… even if you’re not her “physical type.”

Talk to you next week.

Your friend,

David D.

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