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How to Be a Multiorgasmic Man, Part II
by Dr. Alex Benzer
of Tao of Dating
April 26th, 2008
In the last article, we talked about the three elements necessary for becoming a multiorgasmic man.
The three were muscle control, sensation control, and energy control. We gave you a little primer on muscle control, so now it's time for Part II, sensation control.
The idea is simple enough. The Taoist masters taught that you preserve your masculine power and enjoy greater health and longevity by preserving semen. This means that you have orgasms without ejaculation.
Now for most of us raised in a Western tradition, orgasm and ejaculation are the same thing. Turns out it need not be that way.
In fact, a neurologist will tell you that ejaculation and orgasm are linked but happen through separate neural pathways. This means that they need not happen at the same time.
Orgasm happens inside the head. A bunch of neurons release a flood of happy neurotransmitters all at once, and voila! Houston -- we have climax.
It can even happen without stimulating the genitals at all. In fact, it's a pretty common stage hypnosis trick to have someone climax on command. And if they can have one, they can have two, three, four... you get the idea.
Normally, after an ejaculatory orgasm, there is a 'refractory period' during which a man is unresponsive to stimulus. I believe you know what I'm talking about here.
But what if you don't ejaculate at all?
Here's the deal you're presented with: if you ejaculate, you are entitled to one orgasm. If you choose not to ejaculate, you can have as many as you want in rapid succession. AND you get to feel like you just got blasted through a cannon to infinity.
Which do you choose?
Turns out that 999 out of 1000 men choose the one-shot deal, so to speak. Does that make any sense? Especially when you get to feel like a soggy pancake afterwards? And to be the one that ends the party?
Well, it's easier -- that's for sure. And evolution has designed us to take care of business as quickly as possible. I mean, any second the saber-toothed cat might attack. Or your relatives in the cave might wake up. And you're all naked and distracted, so better get done quick-like.
The unfortunate fact is that we're all offspring of fast ejaculators. Because those were the guys who actually ended up having offspring at all.
So it's no surprise that the average duration of intercourse in North America is about two minutes. As the song 'Business Time' by Flight of the Conchords puts it, "Two minutes in heaven is better than one minute in heaven."
The good news is, we can do better. A LOT better.
So you've started by doing your new PC exercises -- at the stop light, in line for groceries, etc. Good on you. Now it's time to familiarize yourself with your own bodily sensations.
That way, you know when you're getting close to the brink of climax, and you can pull back by reducing the amount of stimulus. Go to the brink, pull back. Go to brink -- pull back again.
The key is to recognize your own 'brink', and you do that through a practice the Taoists call self-cultivation.
This is remarkably similar to another practice you have been doing surreptitiously since you were 12. Except now you're doing it with a purpose. Think of it as the least onerous homework you've had to do.
Back to our discussion. When you get close to the brink, there is this tremendous urge to go over the edge and spill your seed. The practice involves feeling that urge -- and pulling back anyway.
Occasionally, you'll go over the edge. And that's alright. Your focus, however, is on getting familiar with your sensations and allowing yourself to cool off before you go over the edge.
Once you're strengthened your PC muscle, you can use it to pump up the hot energy gathering in your groin, diffuse it and cool off. But that's for the next lesson.
In the meantime, here's your practice for this phase of the multiorgasmic training. Don’t start on this until you've already done a week of PC muscle exercises. On other thought -- well, you're doing it anyway, so might as well make it educational.
The simple idea is to self-cultivate 2-3 times for the first week; 3 times for the second week; 5 times for the third week; and 3 times the 4th week, with one practice session to be done with a partner. If you don't have a partner yet, no problem.
This kind of practice requires time, so set aside at least 30min for it. If it's taking less than that, you're not doing it right.
In the next lesson, we'll talk about the third phase of your multiorgasmic training and how it can be a doorway to higher states of consciousness.
The power is within you,
Dr Alex
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